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Thank you for such a thorough response!
I'm glad you mentioned a couple different methods therapists might use. I didn't think of looking for traits that could be categorized, and I agree that I would probably also benefit more from CBT type therapy where I have some tool to implement daily.
I didn't think about religion as a factor. I am not religious and I do feel it would be unhelpful to add that into the discussion as it might complicate an already long list of thoughts I have. That is a great suggestion.
All these specifics are really helping me form a picture of what types of therapists may be available.
Thank you so much for your help!
I just wanted to add on to this great advice, because your specifically asked if it was worth it. The things I learned from Cognitive Behavior Therapy more than 20 years ago have stuck with me all my life and prevented me from falling back into old, toxic patterns of thinking.
So yes, for me at least it was definitely worth it.
That's great to hear! I definitely think CBT is something I want to focus on so I have more tools in my toolbox.
Sure thing!
For what it’s worth, if you tell a therapist you’re not religious/not interested in pursuing that it should be respected. It’s just a topic I’ve had a lot of issues with before so I usually ask if they follow “an evidence-based approach” up front, which I’ve had good luck with.
The best therapist I had was very religious herself and had a large cross tattoo, but respected my lack of belief and only brought up religion as it related to the issues I was working through.
So not a dealbreaker but just something I personally look for :) most I’ve seen are fine working with both religious and non-religious people.
Thanks for clarifying! I'm glad I know now that it's something they will take into account, and I like that you figured out what to ask them specifically about their methodologies.
That's great to hear that many seem to be respectful of boundaries and preferences. I'm glad you found a good one!