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The original was posted on /r/nostupidquestions by /u/1260noggin on 2023-08-25 15:17:20+00:00.
Short bit of context:
My best friend I played competitive soccer with from the age of 10, all the way through high school is getting married to his high school sweetheart (finally after 10 years lol). My best friend and I chose the same college to play soccer at, and went to college for 4 years together. This isn’t like oh hey a friend I knew in high school… we regularly hang out and talk, he’s basically part of my family.
We have another friend we played soccer with who is a very successful GM who opens night clubs and bars in places like Vegas. He’s opening one in Salt Lake, and that’s where the bachelor party is. It’s a bunch of former high school and college teammates meeting up for my friends wedding. The actual wedding is in Kansas City.
My wife doesn’t want me going because, “no.” I’ve asked several times why she’s so opposed to it, and she said “because I don’t want you to.” Meanwhile, she’s going to a mermaid themed bachelorette party at the end of the month in Florida for someone’s she’s know for 4 weeks. She finally said “I don’t trust your friends.” And I simply said you’ve never met them… she said “yeah and idk how they are so I don’t want you hanging out with them.”
These aren’t 21 year old beer chugging frat boys in college looking for their next hook up. They’re dads, with wives and kids. We’re going to have a good time, and there’s nothing I’ve ever done that would make her think I’d go hook up with some chick at a bachelor party…
Am I over reacting? I’m the best man in his wedding, and she doesn’t want me going because she can’t go, she works. But she’s capable of going to a bachelorette party that’s mermaid themed with literal male strippers. I don’t care like it’s not that big of a deal to me with her stuff, but it feels very double standard.