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The original was posted on /r/newzealand by /u/Cute_Tomatillo5339 on 2024-09-18 23:29:45+00:00.
Hi guys. I’m a young female from New Zealand and I left and extremely violent relationship earlier this year. I have finally gotten the courage to make a statement. However I did not realize that if I make one it would go to court with or without my consent. He will be arrested immediately. I want justice to be served but I don’t know if I can cope mentally with a court case.
I guess it would help perhaps knowing how this may go down if I go through with it. What is the court process? What was it like for a domestic violence case?
How do I get the courage to do this. I want him to get what he deserves but the thought of going through with all of this is making me feel very f*cked up and anxious.
How do I do this.. I know it needs to be done but I’m losing my mind here. I was under the impression that I could make a statement and then be the one to decide to press charges or not. However the police will press charges themselves and it’s out of my control.
Advice, thoughts and all welcome. I need help