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TenForward: Where Every Vulcan Knows Your Name

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Some of the many species Jeffrey Combs has evolved into:

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[–] SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 1 points 56 minutes ago* (last edited 56 minutes ago)

I just see it as a hassle. Like why even bother? She would have to explain why she wants to take my name and I would try talking her out of it "What if we get a divorce in 7 years or so? Do you just have to change it back then?" I'm sure that would go over well

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 11 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago) (1 children)

Marrying Jeffery Combs is like marrying 300 men at the same time, though. Every day he can just act like a different alien.

[–] TachyonTele@lemm.ee 8 points 5 hours ago

" I don't know who you are anymore!
I love it!"

[–] Itdidnttrickledown@lemmy.world 12 points 6 hours ago

You can't expect a regressive to understand evolution. They are going backward faster than the rest of us are moving forward.

[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 29 points 8 hours ago (4 children)

My fiance and I are considering creating a brand new last name that we both take.

[–] SaharaMaleikuhm@feddit.org 1 points 59 minutes ago

You can share mine. Personally I don't like it, but maybe you will.

[–] sdfric88@lemmy.sdf.org 14 points 6 hours ago

I recommend Dax

[–] mipadaitu@lemmy.world 19 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Hot tip, change HIS last name prior to the wedding and she gets the name change free.

I know a couple that waited until after the wedding to do that and the husband changed his name, then the wife was given the option of keeping her old name, or switch to his old name.

She ended up having to go through the entire name change process without the benefit of the auto-name flip from the marriage.

[–] bitchkat@lemmy.world 2 points 4 hours ago

I'm pretty sure both of us had the option of changing our names when we got married and when we got divorced.

[–] iknowitwheniseeit@lemmynsfw.com 4 points 5 hours ago

Warning: Taken from decades-old memories of things that I wasn't involved in or paying much attention to! Anyway...

In Virginia a man sued the state like 30 years ago because they wanted to charge him to change his name, when a woman could change her name free when she got married. The state could either have charged women or made it free for all. They chose the later.

[–] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 7 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

I've known other people who do that.

I just feel like any name change that you don't need (i.e. you're transitioning) is just more bother than it's worth.

[–] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 11 points 8 hours ago (2 children)

Yeah, that's what we are running into. The marriage forms here in NC make it simple to take the husband's last name as part of the process, but any other kind of change requires a lot of crazy, expensive, and time consuming steps.

[–] bitchkat@lemmy.world 1 points 4 hours ago

I got the biggest hassle from Delta Airlines on my stupid Skymiles account.

[–] itsprobablyfine@sh.itjust.works 8 points 8 hours ago

I wonder if there's an opening there to claim discrimination on the basis of sex.

[–] Pickle_Jr@lemmy.dbzer0.com 15 points 8 hours ago (7 children)

There are tons of reasons why one might not want to change their name. At a minimum you have to send a form to the state, update any licenses you have, contact your banks, your insurance, your place of work... Best case scenario it's an annoying hassle to deal with.

Was I appreciative when my wife took my name? Sure. But that's mostly because we also share the same first name so it's hilarious to share the same last name. But I told her many times before we got married she didn't need to do it. I never expected that out of her.

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

[–] KinglyWeevil@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 5 hours ago

My wife meant to take my name, but then we never did the paperwork. So we just left it.

[–] ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works 7 points 6 hours ago

If having a matching name is a big deal with you, then you can change your name.

'Why should I have to change? He's the one who sucks!' -Michael Bolton

[–] Rubanski@lemm.ee 5 points 7 hours ago

You both share three same first name as well? That sounds very confusing for your peers

[–] MutilationWave@lemmy.world 2 points 7 hours ago

So curious what your first name is.

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[–] Underwaterbob@lemm.ee 1 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

I only recently found out he was Brunt as well as Weyoun. And had no idea about the others. (I still haven't gotten around to Enterprise.) What a talented guy!

[–] MintyAnt@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago

BRUNT, FCA

DS9 casually nailing it with ferengi actors. Even the cousin was great

[–] Mango@lemmy.world 10 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

What the fuck makes my name any better than hers? Fuck my name. I don't even want it.

[–] Landslide7648@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 8 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Joeffect@lemmy.world 7 points 8 hours ago (4 children)

I tried to but she wouldn't let me

[–] MintyAnt@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

Did you try taking discommendation, being expelled from the empire, brain wiping your brother and only living relative, and impressing her in combat during shared captivity in an enemy camp? If it works for worf..

[–] bane_killgrind@slrpnk.net 7 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

My wife let me take her name

She lets me do anything

[–] Joeffect@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago

Oh, how progressive! Why, back in my day, we just thrilled at the excitement of folding laundry and baking pies all day. But you, dear, you’ve truly broken boundaries. Imagine—your wife letting you take her last name and do whatever you want! Why, next thing we know, she might let you wear trousers too.

Give her my regards; she sounds like quite the visionary!

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[–] BenVimes@lemmy.ca 79 points 14 hours ago (4 children)

There are lots of reasons for women to keep their maiden name. In the case of my wife, she had two good ones:

  1. She didn't want to become disassociated from her scientific publications.

  2. She didn't want to complicate or redo any immigration paperwork.

[–] Sylvartas@lemmy.world 19 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Also some names just sound better. And some names go better than others with some surnames

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 21 points 13 hours ago (2 children)
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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

If Matt Walsh wasn’t openly a male supremacist I’d say it should be turned around on him.

[–] FordBeeblebrox@lemmy.world 4 points 7 hours ago (1 children)

Every time I see one of his shit takes on here for a moment a think of the actor Matt Walsh and think “oh no the funny guy is a shitbag?!”

But no it’s always this other asshole, at least I hope

[–] androogee@midwest.social 2 points 5 hours ago

Nah that guy's an upright citizen.

[–] ShaunaTheDead@fedia.io 131 points 15 hours ago (4 children)

Women, don't marry men who won't take your name. That's a wall of separation he wants to keep between you. It won't be the only one.

[–] TheLowestStone@lemmy.world 41 points 14 hours ago (5 children)

I took my wife's name when we got married. I hate my family and intended to change my last name anyway. Her family is awesome. It was an easy choice.

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[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 32 points 14 hours ago

And don't marry a man who insists you take his. That's a wall of control he's building around you and he won't stop until he's separated you from everyone and everything you love. Marry the man who accepts it's your choice to decide, along with every other decision about yourself.

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[–] Psythik@lemmy.world 25 points 12 hours ago (9 children)

It's fiancée. Fiancé is male.

[–] thatsTheCatch 17 points 12 hours ago

Today I Learned! I had no idea there was a difference. Apparently they are pronounced the same, it's only a written difference.

But it seems like in English fiancé is becoming a gender neutral term

Dictionary.com — Fiancé vs Fiancée

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[–] GeminiFrenchFry@lemm.ee 13 points 11 hours ago

I almost kept my maiden, but now it's an additional middle name. I love my maiden name, but I changed my name to my husbo's because it has a Z in it and I was super stoked to have a Z in my signature. 😂I also like the way it sounds with my first name.

Sometimes, it's really that simple. My husband didn't care either way when we discussed it. It was just a choice I made.

[–] Blackmist@feddit.uk 21 points 13 hours ago (5 children)

Yet another conservative weakchin hiding behind a beard.

They're certainly going for a look right now.

[–] fakeman_pretendname@feddit.uk 3 points 8 hours ago

Yeah, they need to go back to having bald faces and side-parted hair, so we can shun them at long distance.

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[–] lurklurk@lemmy.world 10 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

The compromise is clearly to swap last names with each other

[–] GoofSchmoofer@lemmy.world 6 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I have some friends that got married and decided to merge their two last names and create a brand new last name. I thought it was a cool idea

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