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cross-posted from: https://lemm.ee/post/45204357

Yesterday, I created my account on Lemmy.ml because I want to become mod on !stardewvalley@lemmy.ml. And I posted this comic on !stardewvalley@lemmy.ml It's SDV game cutscene where Shane a NPC go watch Sports game with you kiss you accidentily but It was part of that event also player kiss Shane(NPC) back. Here's video for more context. And someone claimed it have SA(Sexual Assualt) From Hexbear Ofcourse. So, I should delete it. I said it was a part of game cutscene. And If main player doesn't love the Shane(NPC) then they don't need to complete this event. And Just as a sarcasm I added Yeah we shoule delete this entire community because this game is Woke like Woke Detector Steam Group said. That user think I am some anti-woke dickhead something like that IDK. And tell me to Kill My Self. What I do now? I wanted on become mod on .ml because community was already well established. I message dessaline but I am sure he will not unbanned me. :(

Did I really did something wrong? I don't know If I really did something wrong.

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[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

Here's some context, in defence of the OP:

The game in question allows you to date and marry different characters, among them Shane (represented in the comic with the purple hair). In order to do so, once the character reaches an affection level of eight hearts towards you, you need to give them a bouquet, that clearly signals that the player's avatar has romantic interest towards that person.

The comic represents Shane's ten hearts event. As in: you can only reach that point if you already showed romantic interest towards Shane. And in the context, the kiss is not even sexual in nature, it's just Shane excited with the game.

As in, there's no fucking way to interpret this as sexual assault.

But of course. Slacktivists gonna witch hunt, right? They're unable to understand context, but they're still really eager to screech at you. And .ml moderation in special has a nasty tendency towards both slacktivism and witch hunting.

They also don't seem to get sarcasm well.

[–] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 2 points 1 week ago (2 children)

They also don't seem to get sarcasm well.

That's Lemmy as a whole, not just them.

[–] LemmyAide@lemmy.world 2 points 10 hours ago

That’s Lemmy as a whole, not just them.

Very much so!

[–] SatyrSack@feddit.org 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

No, Lemmy is actually the best at picking up on sarcasm

[–] mjhelto@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

Wait a tick... I think this was sarcasm, y'all!

[–] mathemachristian@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

This is SA and all my arguments are made in the original thread which OP conveniently never links: CW for SA and SA apology https://hexbear.net/post/3706906

[–] Snowpix@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Why would anyone want to read anything from that cesspit? If you're going to make an argument, make it here. Otherwise you're falling on deaf ears as most people here know Hexbear's very poor reputation and won't bother.

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml -1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

It's on Hexbear as it views the original Lemmy.ml thread, don't be so scared, lol. You aren't going to become a spooky scary Marxist just for clicking a link even if it was linked directly to Hexbear.

The important bit is that the link shows the entire argument chain between the commenter you are replying to and OP.

[–] Chozo@fedia.io 1 points 1 week ago

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[–] PugJesus@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Celebrate. Move to another instance. Dbzer0, Solarpunk, Lemm.ee, .world, there are a bunch of choices. Takes some work to revive a community, but it's very doable. .ml has trash admins and mods, and that's unlikely to change.

[–] Sasha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Having looked at your other post about it and the original thread, nah they were pretty in the right to take it down. What was depicted in that comic is exactly the sort of thing I'd imagine when thinking of toxic masculinity, it makes me extremely uncomfortable to think about anything like that happening in real life as it very clearly depicts a form of sexual assault. I really don't like the idea that this is something people think should be normalised, sexual assault is more than just r*pe. It doesn't really matter if it's from a game, it's an entirely valid point and that's as far as the discussion should go.

That said, the "makes me want to shoot you" comment wasn't called for and they should apologise for it, even if they were trying to make some other point.

[–] DarkThoughts@fedia.io 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Kissing the person you're dating is toxic masculinity now? Jesus fucking Christ. Please explain what toxic male stereotype was depicted here to make it make sense. And did they both rape each other too, since they were drinking a can of beer and thus were not able to consent? Or does that also only work for men? And yes, it completely matters if it is from a game, or any other fan fiction's source. It's a comic of a scene from its original source material. Context matters but people like you just want to be asocial. Just because you're not aware of the context, does not mean it doesn't exist.

[–] Sasha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Look man, I'm just giving my opinion of how it looked to me, it's fine if you disagree. But you don't need to be a dick about it.

I don't know why you'd say I want to be asocial, I read the comic and it made me pretty uncomfortable, within the context of the game sure fair point, it's fine. But not everyone is going to see it that why, so I disagreed, I'm not whatever monster you've decided I am.

[–] DarkThoughts@fedia.io 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Please explain what toxic male stereotype was depicted here to make it make sense.

[–] zazazaza@lemmy.ml -1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Kissing someone that's intoxicated without asking for consent first. (Even with consent you should ideally wait until both of you are sober to ask again)

[–] mp3@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

One of the reason why our instance defederated from Hexbear. They're not there to discuss in good faith, they're there to incite and provoke, then they start crying if you reply back to their nonsense.

They're not worth interacting with.

[–] lvxferre@mander.xyz 0 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

To be fair I've had good discussions with a few of them, so I can't generalise.

But... yeah, some of them don't quite realise that the childish behaviour that would be OK in HB is despised elsewhere, and that it's the the major reason why their instance gets defederated so bloody often - it is not red scare, it's "get the children back to the kindergarten so the adults can talk".

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml -1 points 1 week ago

Hexbear has been far more level-headed than Lemmy.world in my experience, it's definitely red scare. Lemmy.world admins admitted as much on their end.