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There's so much doom on social media right now. The environment is collapsing. The economy will crash. Civil rights are ending. Democracy is dead.

What keeps you going? Why do you still get up and go do what needs to be done when the world seems to be ending around us?

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[–] slazer2au@lemmy.world 48 points 5 days ago (3 children)

By avoiding social media and living my life through memes and video games.

[–] ReanuKeeves@lemm.ee 25 points 5 days ago (1 children)

There is a theory that natural human psychology wasn't made to handle all of the world's atrocities. People experience a "bad news burnout" because some of us constantly feel disappointed in humans as a race by hearing/seeing sociopathic behavior on an international level every day.

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 12 points 5 days ago (3 children)

I think I just hit that wall. This thread is fucking depressing. There's happiness and hope out there, but it seems you won't find it on social media, I guess. Negativity bias seems more prevalent on Lemmy than others.

[–] ReanuKeeves@lemm.ee 7 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

There's a reason why it's common for people to occasionally want to camp out in the middle of nowhere with no technology for a bit. If I read about some horrible news like a grandma getting shot picking olives on her own land I try to follow it up with something more lighthearted such as kittens hugging puppies. Like eating pickled ginger as a pallette cleanser between sushi.

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[–] phoenixz@lemmy.ca 5 points 3 days ago

Almost none of the crap going on will directly affect your life. Just live, enjoy, don't read the news. You'll be fine

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 18 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Honestly? I have no idea. Probably spite. Why should I kill myself? It's the world that sucks.

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[–] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 20 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Find a small corner of the world you can improve and focus on that. Can only effect what you can. Not worth worrying about the other stuff.

As hokey as it sounds 🤷‍♂️

[–] amanneedsamaid@sopuli.xyz 2 points 4 days ago

That's the most healthy way to have a positive impact on the world, imo. Thats what the human mind is best designed for.

[–] remon@ani.social 31 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

Running on hope isn't sustainable in this world, you gotta run on spite!

[–] GardenVarietyAnxiety@lemmy.world 9 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I think you just helped me realize what's keeping me going...

[–] Fuck_u_spez_@sh.itjust.works 3 points 4 days ago

Learning to harness that anxiety helps, too. It's my fuel and my brakes at the same time.

[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago (1 children)

My Factorio engineer can't keep the thing going without me.

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

You have to automate his job so he can't feed his family.

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 6 points 3 days ago (1 children)
[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 2 points 5 hours ago

At first I thought it was the lemon-lime goodness of Sprite that gave you hope, but I read it wrong.

[–] iamjackflack@lemm.ee 18 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Donald Trump will die (don’t care if from natural causes or not) at some point in the near future. Just want to be alive to celebrate.

[–] card797@champserver.net 8 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Reasons you can get banned permanently from reddit for $1000.

[–] Coreidan@lemmy.world 8 points 4 days ago

Good thing this isn’t Reddit then

[–] GreenKnight23@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I want to watch him die. just to make sure the piece of shit is actually dead.

got my hopes up when covid got him. fat greasy mcdoublefuck still pulled through.

I thought I was devastated then.

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[–] FeloniousPunk@lemmy.today 12 points 4 days ago

I deleted all my social media the day after the election, except for my lemmy account. Mostly because I forgot about it. Now I just read a few news headlines and solve a crossword every day. And WHOA - talk about having bountiful free time now. It’s kinda scary.

Am I less stressed? Meh, maybe a bit. But I’ve decided I’m going to find beauty and amusement in the utter self destruction we are about to witness. I’m going to stand over here and watch the fire while I drink my beer in peace.

[–] Carrolade@lemmy.world 21 points 5 days ago

Study of history.

People have been prophesying the end times for millennia now, for this reason or that reason. I think that ultimately they just don't like the basic fact that change of some sort or another is inevitable in the world, it will not remain static and no system or institution will last forever. This does not result in any concrete end, however.

To quote Morpheus, "I remember that I am here not because of the path that lies before me, but because of the path that lies behind me."

There's also a fair bit of profit-driven exaggeration in just how bad things really are in certain arenas. Bad news makes good clickbait, good/neutral news less so. So the ratio of bad to good news we receive is not actually representative of the full picture of what is happening in the world.

[–] ch00f@lemmy.world 19 points 5 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

Over the past few weeks, I realized that I wasn’t reading the news to “stay informed,” I was reading it because I was bored. As a form of entertainment, it’s pretty awful. 99% of what I read will have no direct impact on me or my family, and just sitting there and worrying about it without doing anything to fix it serves nobody.

Also, I’ve learned to be skeptical of basically every headline good or bad. I saw a headline this week about how upset Trump supporters were with his cabinet picks. Comments in the thread were talking about leopards eating faces. The article was a collection of 8 tweets from supporters showing disapproval.

This news site was just preying on people’s hopes and making a story out of absolutely nothing.

So I started focusing on some personal hobbies and have tried to re-teach myself how to focus by reading some long form fiction.

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 7 points 5 days ago

This is so true. MY eyes are now a commodity and I'm going to choose who gets them more wisely.

[–] berryjam@lemmy.world 10 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

What else are we supposed to do?

Edit: that's a rhetorical question, don't come at me enumerating the alternatives

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

I drink. I shouldn't, but I do.

[–] chiliedogg@lemmy.world 11 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Jack Smith dropped the charges without prejudice so they can be re-filed the second he leaves office.

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[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago

Spite and a need to see people get their just desserts

[–] TexMexBazooka@lemm.ee 4 points 3 days ago

Not much but snark

[–] BlueMagma@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Curiosity, so I observe. I believe we have control over nothing and that free will is an illusion. Consciousness is a mystery, as much my own as the one I suppose others have. In the middle of the chaos, I sometimes see glimpses of beauty, in many forms: music, images, people's behaviour, fiction, maths, nature... So I observe , I try to find patterns, to understand how things work, why others do what they do. I have found beauty in the very little things, what used to be chores I now enjoy, they were chores because "I thought I had better more important things to do", I wanted to be "later" but now I know what matters is to live in the moment, and I'll be living the next moment later.

Social media, the news, they are trying to grab your attention and project you to the future, what is the next threat, when are you likely to die or suffer. The truth is: we are all going to be dead eventually, it can be for many reasons, it can be in the next hour, or in thousands of years, we cannot know when, but we all know it will happen, doesn't really help to worry too much about it.

Don't waste your life trying to prevent your inevitable death. Enjoy it while you can. The rest is mostly out of your control anyway.

[–] GhiLA@sh.itjust.works 8 points 4 days ago

I don't have any. I'm just taking care of my family until I run out of living relatives to give a shit about, then I'm out. Peace.

[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 days ago

Hope? I have none. I continue on through the power of avoidance and denial. If I stop to think about things it turns into suicidal thoughts, so I just do my damnedest not to think.

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 11 points 4 days ago (9 children)

My dogs. I stagger their ages so that I'll always have at least one and thus would feel too guilty to ever kill myself.

[–] berryjam@lemmy.world 4 points 4 days ago

Planning 🧠

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[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago

What’s hope got to do with it? You survive. That’s it.

But for real, because my people have endured persecution before. As I look at our incoming persecution I see that we got further this time than in a long time and so we must endure and survive and go further again.

But no matter what you survive

[–] mke_geek@lemm.ee 11 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I keep hoping that everything is exaggerated and it won't be that bad. That he'll be out in 4 years and not become a dictator with no more term limits.

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[–] beliquititious@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Touching grass. It's important to remember that the entire world isn't online and the world isn't as dire as all of us chronically online doomers would have you believe. Things are chaotic-shift-in-the-status-quo bad, not civilization-ending bad.

The wheel turns, right now it's in a muddy rut and the people on the bottom (sexually active women, people of colors, and the queer community) are drowning, but all the little people on the outer edge are eventually in the dirt. Fuck the world, fuck the country, the people you have personal relationships with are the only thing that matters because all we have is each other.

Personally I have been trying to be more proactive, which has helped me have a sense of agency amidst the chaos. Everything I own fits in my car in case I need to leave quickly because of a climate disaster or the legalization of hunting trans people. I haven't bought a new thing (used, diy, or do without only) since lockdown because it's significantly cheaper and makes me feel like I'm doing my part to fight final form capitalism. I've also been exploring alternate ways to support myself and live that are more sustainable.

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[–] realtegan@lemm.ee 3 points 3 days ago

I have no hope, only fantasies that people will come to their senses someday. Hope? Nah.

[–] bear@lemmynsfw.com 10 points 5 days ago

Easy. The world isn't ending. Ignore the doomers. Problem solved.

[–] whotookkarl@lemmy.world 3 points 4 days ago

I wouldn't say I'm completely hopeful or doomed, the world is filled with terror and beauty. There are no gods or kings it's just people. Historic and scientific education can help reduce anxiety about the unknown, change your own beliefs and behaviors to improve the situation locally before joining organizations looking to make broader changes. Learn what your fears are and face them, otherwise it will cloud your judgement and influence your decision making process.

[–] Sahi@lemmy.world 9 points 5 days ago (2 children)

What keeps you going? Why do you still get up and go do what needs to be done when the world seems to be ending around us? For me it's my family , my own goal like playing gta 6 (even I don't think I will play) but for me big reason I have friends I like to talk with them and enjoy with them. Because nobody like loneliness even iam introvert guy I still like to share my thoughts with others and knowing thier thoughts.i think it's enough for me keep going .I wanna suggest you to search about absurdism or watch the movie everything everywhere all at once .

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[–] OlPatchy2Eyes@slrpnk.net 3 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Gaming with the homies. I ought to be able to get a couple dogs one day. I'm getting better at cooking. I meet new and amazing people every now and then.

I do my best to steer the world in the direction I'd like to see it go, and I try take pride in the effort, not in the results. The destination might look dark now but you can still enjoy the journey. I hope that makes sense.

[–] NineMileTower@lemmy.world 1 points 5 hours ago

take pride in the effort, not in the results

Bruh. That's poetic. Thank you.

[–] vagabond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 4 days ago

TL;DR focus on the things you can control and do literally anything to try to improve things

The thing that causes trauma isn't the bad event but the helplessness that accompanies it.

The main (and sometimes only) tactic that we are taught for dealing with problems is to find an intermediary who can do things on our behalf; seek the nearest authority who will take up your cause. Viewed that way, the fact that institutions and authorities are failing is disempowering; the problem is impossible because the schools/cops/companies/non-profits/politicians/media/etc aren't helping. The only option that perspective leaves you is to take the blows and hope you're strong enough to last until a better intermediary arrives. That shit will wear you down real fast.

We need to unlearn the dependence on intermediaries. We can't stop the bad events from happening (and boy are they happening) but we can combat the helplessness. The antidote to helplessness is exercising agency and feeling control over our actions and their consequences. Find a way you can make things a little bit better and then show up and do it. Anything is fine, if there's a cause you're passionate about then do that, but if there's not then pick something you're kinda sort of good at. Write, draw, make phone calls, create memes, cook, drive, listen, etc. Any skill, no matter how small, can be leveraged to improve the world around you if you're clever about it.

The fight is the point.

Taking action to control what you can is powerful. Maybe you'll succeed and maybe you won't but taking action is where you'll find resilience. If what you do doesn't work then learn from the experience and deepen your understanding. You're not failing to solve the problem you are building up your capacity to tackle it and that shit takes time. Pursue this as vigorously and as passionately as you are able but also know that it's okay to take breaks and step away sometimes.

Also, humans are social creatures so if what you do involves other people that's even better.

[–] Sir_Kevin@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 5 days ago

I'm sticking around to witness the collapse, in the hopes things go full mad max. Because that would be a better existence than the one I'm currently living in.

I'm not sure if I'm half joking or being entirely serious.

[–] urheber@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 5 days ago

Keeps me going? drugs and food. Life right now is just like a zombie from 6:00-15:00, and later From 15:00-3:00 life can feel good in rare occasions.

[–] katkit@lemmy.world 6 points 5 days ago

Personally, I turn to activism. I realized that regardless of how horrible the future will be, there's good to do in this world.

The world is full of people who are as scared as you and I are. I can make their lives a tad more positive.

The environment is collapsing? Educate and organise, think about how to build mutual aid systems and how to sustain yourself small scale.

The economy will crash? Help others, people who got thrown to the curb by the social system, homeless people, orphans,...

Civil rights are ending? I'm trans and scared. And there's so many other trans children that are counting on me to be the representation that I wish would have had when I was their age. I'm not going down without a fight.

Democracy is ending? Let's focus on preserving what we can and try to rebuild. It won't be over forever.

People being nice to and helping me often makes my day in an otherwise miserable time.I want to be that person for others.

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