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I wouldn't want to stay married to anyone who would play these kinds of mind games.

Y'all need to talk more

What a sad situation. I know a lot of people here think this is abuse and I can see their perspective, but I see this more as a relationship lacking communication. The wife didn't feel assured that her husband loved her anymore and the divorce papers were a last ditch effort to see if he still does. Sure, just talking openly would be better, but goddamn is it hard to find people who can do that.

I think the fact that she broke down and tore up the papers immediately after is a sign that she really didn't want to do it and was reacting to his genuine reply.

I think OOP needs couple's therapy.

This is fiction.

It takes a lot more than 3 days to finalize terms of the divorce. It usually takes longer than that just to get both of your lawyers to look over and approve it.

Even if these two people are both lawyers, and decided to represent themselves, you’d need a notary present when you’re signing.

Emotional abuse detected.

> lack personal communication skills with wife

> casually post deeply personal and emotional stories on 4chan behind veils of text and anonymity

> oh shit am I neurodivergent and undiagnosed because I've never talked with a therapist

"The bond is broken, I said!" You can't unspeak the words.

So... if anon took those papers and just taped them back together, would they still be legally binding if submitted?

Would this depend on the jurisdiction/country? I've never thought seriously about whether tearing up signed legal documents constitutes a refutation after they're signed. (a pile of torn-up papers doesn't carry any proof of which, either or both, parties agreed to the tearing-up). And thankfully never been in a situation where this question would arise. Also assuming 'tearing up' wasn't enough to prevent taping them back into a mostly-complete state.

https://law.stackexchange.com/questions/27773/does-ripping-up-the-only-signed-contract-form-invalidate-it

Talking of course would have been better, but I have a sneaky suspicion that this was not the first time she brought it up. I think the first one, he didn't "care," and she thought making it seem more serious would prompt some action. I think she was hoping it would be a catalyst for talking/change and not just, "Well, it's been swell." Like, ma'am, he doesn't care. You told this man you fell out of love with him and he didn't seem to care. Then you present him with divorce papers and he signs them willingly, as well as saying that the bond is broken. You ran out crying because he's said very clearly that he doesn't care, doesn't want to "fight" for you, and did not react at all from the first time you brought it up until you gave him the papers. No "Oh my god, are you serious?" or "Can we talk?," hell, he didn't even bring up his own grievances. So now you take a nap on the couch, debating on uprooting your life for someone who at least seems vaguely interested in you, or staying with someone who is seemingly indifferent to you and your grivenances as he's like "lol, women are so weird" on the internet.

Again, not saying her actions were the most rational, but humans aren't always rational. Sometimes our emotions get the best of us and we just want to know that our presence matters, and that sometimes leads us to make mistakes. Sad for them both.

"I don't understand women."

Whenever someone has an issue with an SO, then extrapolates that to all women... that's a red flag to me that this guy has a lot more misogynistic views just outside the frame of view.

It is unfortunately common. Pretty much all of the guys I know IRL complain about their SOs with "Pft. Women, right?" And I'm sitting here like... No? Maybe that's just your SO? Or just your SO when they're with you?