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I try to join about 5 minutes before because I'm terrified of being the first person or the last.

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[–] SouthFresh@lemmy.world 1 points 17 minutes ago* (last edited 17 minutes ago)

If I'm hosting 5 minutes early. If I'm attending, 2 minutes early unless I'm the only one attending from my org, in which case exactly on time.

[–] synapse1278@lemmy.world 4 points 1 hour ago

My workweeks are 25 to 50% meetings, the vast majority online. I try to be exactly on time as much as possible, can't afford to be in advance, will notify if I will be more than 3 minutes late. I send a message to participants if they are not all here after a couple of minutes, not to put pressure, but I know it's easy to be concentrating on something and miss the meeting, it happens to me as well.

[–] RBWells@lemmy.world 2 points 1 hour ago

Zero minutes early to one minute late (for work ones). I hate the virtual meetings, and the software is robust enough I trust it. If it's something else where I have to use my phone (doctor appointment or similar) then more than 5 minutes ahead to make sure I have time to reach out if it isn't working.

[–] tronx4002@lemmy.world 5 points 3 hours ago

1 min early, or right on time. Never late.

[–] corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca 1 points 2 hours ago

5 min early. If you're not 5 min early, you're late.

Honestly, usually it's 4-5 min early: I'll pop in and noodle about prepping whatever, documenting something or just staring out the window a sec to clear my head. I'm usually very satisfied I'm not late by normie standards because being on-time shows a modicum of respect to others. If it's a shit meeting, that's an exception. I have one where I'm noticeably barely-on-time, and everyone points it out.

I'd encourage meetings to lock at the start time if I could, so late joiners wait in the lobby until someone opens the door, and then we'll know whom to heckle.

[–] Adderbox76@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 hours ago

Three minutes before. No more. No less.

[–] aesthelete@lemmy.world 12 points 9 hours ago (1 children)
[–] boaratio@lemmy.world 2 points 3 hours ago
[–] Mac@mander.xyz 2 points 10 hours ago

Ha. Bold of you to assume I have some sort of control over these things.
If I join at all, i join whenever the stars align and it occurs to me as something needing to happen.

That being said, I usually intend to join just a couple minutes early.

[–] BigPotato@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago

I shut and lock my door ten minutes before a meeting. Hit the bathroom and then usually log in for a functions check, fix my blinds and pull up the relevant group chat that doesn't have the boss in it.

Organize my notes on my desk, get a coffee or water in front of me. Someone will always be later. I'll sometimes be the first. Let teams let them see that I'm starting it, whatever, everyone knows I'm getting my coffee.

Also, I like to give my colleague a fifteen minute heads up since he'll sometimes forget.

[–] tomi000@lemmy.world 16 points 16 hours ago

Usually as soon as Teams notifies me of the first person starting the meeting.

How can you not always be the first when youre 5min early, wtf xD

[–] fidgeting9658@lemmings.world 7 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Depends on the context.

  • My meeting? Right on time.
  • Team meeting? On time.
  • A meeting I knew about, was on my calendar, and requires my expertise? Right on time, but a lower priority.
  • Something is broken and we're grouping up? Right on time.
  • A meeting on my calendar that I don't really need to be in? 2-3 minutes after, I'll finish what I'm currently engaged in or get to a stopping point.
  • A meeting I've been invited to with no additional context? 2-5 minutes late.
  • A meeting I was invited to with no communication/context that is before/after my normal working hours? If I remember and I'm bored.
  • A meeting I was inviting a to outside of my working hours and will start before I come online? Forget about it.

I work for a global corpo, so the last two happen quite a bit. Time is money friend.

[–] edg@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

My god I need to emulate this. I'm doing it all wrong.

[–] Shadow@lemmy.ca 64 points 1 day ago (1 children)

If I'm running the meeting, 5 minutes. If it's large group meeting, 2 mins early. If it's 1:1, right on time.

[–] Anissem@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 day ago

This is the way

[–] Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 18 hours ago

One to two minutes late to most meetings. I don't have time or energy for the BS of "How are you" etc. Let's get down to business.

Caveat is that if it's with a VIP I'll be exactly on time.

[–] plm00@lemmy.ml 47 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I join when the meeting reminder pops up and I click "join", right on time. I don't like small talk, no point in being early.

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Plus it’s not like there’s anything happening in the first couple minutes. The more people who are in the meeting the more likely someone will be late anyway.

[–] FigMcLargeHuge@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I feel like people who join really early are basically saying "Tell me you have nothing to do without telling me you have nothing to do."

[–] insaneinthemembrane@lemmy.world 4 points 17 hours ago

Not quite. I join on time because I'm busy and if I don't join now I will completely forget. I just keep working until everyone else gets there and the I'll turn on my camera and mic.

[–] edg@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Probably people who were raised by military parents. My instinct is to join early as fuck, like 10 minutes. I blame my father forcing me to show up early for everything.

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[–] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sometimes I join really early BECAUSE I have stuff to do. I lose track of time, so I'll open the reminder and keep the room running in the background while I accomplish something else, once I hear someone talking, I'll switch tabs and focus on the meeting.

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[–] jpreston2005@lemmy.world 10 points 20 hours ago

I join at the exact time it starts. If I join earlier, I may get pulled into unnecessary small-talk platitudes that are like nails on a chalkboard to my depressed-as-shit self.

[–] mannycalavera@feddit.uk 9 points 21 hours ago

Five minutes earlier? God damn bro. That's coffee making time.

[–] sylver_dragon@lemmy.world 11 points 22 hours ago

I join at exactly the designated time. If you wanted me there five minutes earlier, then schedule the meeting five minutes earlier. Don't jerk me around with some expectation that I'm going to do anything other than what you asked for. Also, most of the folks I work with tend to be booked with lots of back to back meetings; so, no one is showing up early anyway. We all show up at the designated time and anyone late can catch up when they show up.

The "early is on time" mentality makes some sense for physical meetings and appointments. For virtual meetings, it just demonstrates that the person has no understanding of how technology works.

[–] mosiacmango@lemm.ee 20 points 1 day ago

On time, even when presenting. Starting early makes other people feel obligated to join early, so I don't do it. No reason to extend the meeting longer than the listed time.

[–] friend_of_satan@lemmy.world 7 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago)

I join anywhere from a few minutes before to a few minutes after, and if I don't want to chit chat I hit the little "coffee break" status and stay on mute.

FWIW I do virtual meetings daily due to 100% remote work.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 5 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago)

A minute or two before. Just enough time to ensure my setup is working.

If I'm hosting a presentation, I usually start 15 minutes early so people can connect while I'm semi-afk, with the first slide saying "Presentation will begin shortly. Pour yourself a coffee in the mean time."

Previous presentation I had multiple slides, three I think, each with an example of activities they could probably manage to do before starting.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

between on the dot and a few minutes afterwards depending on whos hosting. If i know they're gonna waste time jibber-jabbering at the start I give it a few minutes for that to play out. I don't care about what you did last weekend Janet.

[–] bitchkat@lemmy.world 7 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

They reason they chit chat is to kill time waiting for people to join.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Not always. I've been in plenty of meetings where everyone was present and they still were off topic for 5-10 minutes at the start.

[–] bitchkat@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago

That sounds like my old employer. They were also too cheap to pay for zoom licenses so meetings would terminate at 40 minutes and everyone would have to rejoin.

Usually anywhere from 2 to 5min before because my stupid ass laptop has a 50% chance of just forgetting how audio devices work and I have to test them every time.

[–] Nibodhika@lemmy.world 4 points 19 hours ago

Usually exactly on time, but if I'm doing something that requires concentration and there's a chance I might lose track of time I might join 5 min earlier so that I don't miss the meeting.

Aren't you always the first 5 min before? I know that the times I joined even a minute or two early I've always been the first.

[–] HubertManne@moist.catsweat.com 2 points 16 hours ago

if im invited then right on time if I host then one minute early, maybe 2. usually. sometimes I have meetings that end 3mins to the next or go over which impact my ability to get to the meeting on time.

[–] Alexstarfire@lemmy.world 9 points 23 hours ago
[–] UpperBroccoli@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 22 hours ago

Exactly on point, because there's always people early or late. This way I neither have to start it nor be embarresed to be the last.

Also:

A wizard is never late, nor is he early, he arrives precisely when he means to

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 2 points 17 hours ago

Usually at least an hour early to get a good seat.

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 7 points 23 hours ago

My first meeting working in a fully-remote job, I joined a Teams meeting with the whole team (~8 people) 5 minutes early. I wasn't the host, of course.

People were (invisibly) giving me the side eye.

I soon learned that starting the meeting makes a popup appear on everyone's screen saying that the meeting started...and also that a lot of people regularly have back-to-back meetings and can't leave early. (This was mid-pandemic, shortly before it became the norm to end meetings before the hour)

After that, I started joining all virtual meetings either second (by clicking the pop-up that someone else started it), or before XX:01 (or before 1 minute after the meeting time).

In-person, I'll still show up to the meeting room 5 minutes early, or 15 if it's a slow day. But do that too often and people think you're useless, lol

I like arriving early for small talk, instead of having the rushed small talk when the meeting is "supposed" to begin.

[–] OwlPaste@lemmy.world 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Whenever I remember there is a meeting on. Have to keep those damned outlook 15min reminders on screen or I will forget

[–] wjrii@lemmy.world 3 points 19 hours ago

Sometimes people don't include the reminder in their outlook invite. They have no right to expect me to show up at all if they do that. At the very least, they need to apologize when they send me the stupid "Are you attending my meeting?" Slack message.

I never cared about your meeting, Derek. No one cared about it. We only show up to meetings when Outlook tells us it's time. Our calendars are just endless strings of soul-sucking meetings no one wants to be on, and I will never check mine pre-emptively. I accept everything I'm invited to, Derek. Everything. We all do. Remember the fucking reminder, Derek.

[–] MithrandirDuhGrey@lemm.ee 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

“A wizard is never late, nor is he early. He arrives precisely when he means to”

[–] OmegaLemmy@discuss.online 3 points 19 hours ago
[–] GreyShuck@feddit.uk 9 points 1 day ago

In real life meeting most of the value is in the informal side chats that you have just before or just after, in my experience. Unfortunately that basically doesn't happen in virtual meetings, so I join dead on time, or a minute or two in for larger ones.

[–] tyler@programming.dev 8 points 1 day ago

1-5 minutes late

[–] Caboose12000@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago

I like joining 5+ mins early so I can just sit in silence and work while waiting for the meeting to start rather than stressing about needing to lock at the clock (j have adhd and tend to hyperfocus). plus I dont mind a little small talk, but even so no one else on my team seems to want to smalltalk so even if someone else joins early it's pretty quiet

[–] QuarterSwede@lemmy.world 1 points 15 hours ago

I’ve got so many meetings that I just join whenever it’s started by someone and go about my work until the meeting starts. If I’m not the target audience I’ll go off camera and listen if needed.

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