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submitted 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) by TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works to c/onehundredninetysix@lemmy.blahaj.zone
 

this one is actually one of my favorite memes. It's up there with the "oh youre into pronouns? how about you let me she/them titties" Mario voice acted one

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[–] FauxLiving@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

what will they learn

Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.

[–] TommySoda@lemmy.world 11 points 13 hours ago (4 children)

Not trying to be rude, just curious where she/they comes from? I would like to know what it means. The other ones I know but this one is lost on me.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 1 points 25 minutes ago* (last edited 24 minutes ago)

means you can refer to the person as she, or as they.

Could be used by transfems, cisfemmes, enbys, anyone who's ok with being referred to as she or they when talking about 'em in the third person

[–] ElfBean@fedia.io 20 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Transfem enby here - the way it works for me (can't speak for anyone else) is essentially as two valid options. Some of my friends alternate, some stick with one, but if you're going to pick just one then those are the correct options. Can't guarantee it'll be the same for others with multiple valid pronouns but most will be happy to explain if you ask. Personally I list them from most to least preferred but they're both right so as long as it's one of those I don't care that much

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 2 hours ago

I do the same. I guess it'd make more sense to write she/her/they/them but that's long and everybody recognizes that the single slash represents pronouns so more looks weird.

[–] yuri@pawb.social 16 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

gendered/non-gendered mixes like that can be a little confusing at first. i’ve met folks with these chosen pronouns, and the answers i’ve gotten have ranged from “i’m happy with either” to “i’d prefer if you used both roughly the same amount”.

anecdotally, they’ve also been some of the most chill folks i’ve met when it comes to messing up their pronouns! which is wonderful for me because my brain is a pile of rotting swiss cheese that can sometimes do math ^^

[–] garbagebagel@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (1 children)

I've always understood them as either/or, although I always though people wput their preferred one first. Sometimes people will use both when they're questioning or just want to test one out to see if it feels more comfortable, or sometimes they truly just don't care.

Though I remember someone once wanted each specific pronoun to be used depending on what you were saying (i.e. she went to the store where their friend was waiting), which I would try to respect but honestly that's a whole other level of thinking and I can't imagine most people being this particular.

[–] zea_64@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 hours ago

I've thought about correcting people about my pronouns depending on how I'm feeling, but honestly I couldn't even expect myself to get it right so I don't.

[–] Fetus@lemmy.world 3 points 9 hours ago

Is it supposed to be interpreted as see them tiddies, maybe?