No Stupid Questions

Have you explored your anger issues and addressed root causes? If not, anything will continue to trigger you and yes, that's an issue.

For the most part, yes. For the parts that are a no, they are going to be really unhealthy and chaotic relationships. It definitely depends on the person, but this can be a very challenging social dynamic. It sounds pretty chaotic and I am not sure how many people would be able to deal with that day by day.

To your last point, emotional communication is always tough and it's really hard to piece things together to get your thoughts across when tensions are high. I think that coming from a mindset of refining and explaining, to yourself first and then to others, why you feel a certain way or did a certain action could be a good start.

Additionally, a lot of people do not respond well to "tough love". I would argue that for the majority of scenarios, it's one of the least successful ways to go about showing support and care for someone else. Setting clear and respectful boundaries is one thing, but providing only conditional support is a great way to tank a relationship and have someone distrust you. I think it's also helpful to unpack why you feel you need to act that way with people you care about. For me, that took a lot of work (still does) and goes back to my relationship with my dad (which has its positives and negatives, a lot of which we've worked through over the years).

One of the most important ideas I've come across with communication is that you should ask yourself if your actions are helping you meet your goals in the conversation. If you really want to build a strong, trusting, relationship with someone, that's going to look wildly different to the actions you would take if you really want to distance yourself from someone. And if you mess up with how you presented yourself or how you meant to come across, address it as soon as you possibly can. Clear communication is key and being clear with yourself and your goals/wants/needs/preferences is the start of that.

Hope that helps lol good luck out there. There's a lot of happiness to bring to the world if you work toward it.

Edit:

For the most part, yes. For the parts that are a no, they are going to be really unhealthy and chaotic relationships.

Have you looked into Stocism?

as someone who’s not psychotic but experienced symptoms similar to a psychotic break from ages 16-17 (idk what it was but it involved around 2-week severe periods of mood swings [mainly anxiety, anger, or euphoria] and depression, people suspected bpd or bipolar but neither was confirmed), i can say that i would also constantly post stuff repeatedly, look for advice, and also felt unfixable (“this is the way i am”).

i have no clue if you’re experiencing what i did or anything similar to psychosis, i’m just sharing that i’m quite concerned for you.

(i also must note that I didn’t find other people useless during this period)

Absolutely. After living 10 years with a person like you, leaving her was the best of my life and I should have done that sooner.

I have to add more, to be honest with you.

The reasons why she was bad for me where deeper than just the rage issue alone. That was probably the lesser issue, so don't be afraid.

But I strongly suggest that you start a serious and sincere path with a good phycologist as that has the potential to help you control and understand the issue.

Yourself, and the people who care about you, will thank you for that.

Don't over think and go for it.