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It was so fun back then. Not the yelling and moaning we have going on today.

Here on Lemmy, even in non-political discussions some is always whining about the current president or whatever.

Or calling for alt voices to be banned.

Back in the 80's computer stuff and conversation was more fun and not so freakin' political.

It was about games, DYI, trying to learn to hack, learning the new tech. It was awesome!

I was part of it, but not as much as I could have been because I was in a small town and couldn't afford a lot. But I def had a foot in the scene, and it was awesome!

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[–] nokturne213@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I grew up in rural NM and was in elementary school in the early 80s. My school was not much, multiple years I had more than one grade in my classroom. We had a total of about 60 students on a high year. But we had a very progressive principal who applied for every computer grant he could. We had a Tandy computer in every classroom, complete with tape drive, and a wall of computers in the library, including two that had dual 5.25” floppy drives.

Shortly after that I convinced my parents to buy a computer, I was 8 or 9. I wanted an Apple, but because of the larger variety of programs and games available for the IBM clone we went that route.

In 88 or 89 I skipped school with a friend and we ended up at the university in town and someone got us onto the internet and playing an Amber MUD. By high school I had dial up internet and have been online since. I am still in touch with some of the people I met back then, I married one of them.

I miss when people would balk at the idea of email and the internet in general.

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 2 points 1 day ago

Yep! I remember seeing an ad in Omni magazine that showed someone sitting at a computer. And in big bold print it said, "Imagine being able to read the news with just a few clicks of a keyboard!" Then going on to say someday that may happen.

And boy did it ever. But what's so funny that ad seemed so futuristic and cool. Now we do it from our pocket. Crazy.

I still have that magazine by the way. I should dig it out and scan that ad!

[–] dicksteele@lemm.ee 2 points 1 day ago

It was so slow but almost like an age of wonder.

[–] MagicShel@lemmy.zip 10 points 1 day ago (4 children)

80's were fun but I was born in 73. I miss a lot about those days, mostly being young and having few responsibilities and a lot of privileges. The very late 80's and early 90's were the heyday of computing and internet for me. It was the Wild West and everyone in it was mostly young and nerdy. My people.

Now the internet is full of assholes who aren't just autistic, but are self-aware assholes who profit from it in terms of money or attention. If I could turn back time I'd go back to it in a heartbeat.

But it wasn't perfect. CP was everywhere. It hit different when I was 15 myself, but these days I'm glad it's cleaned up. Everything took forever. You could spend hours downloading a thing and it wouldn't work. There were known hacks to bring down chat rooms any time you wanted and assholes would use them. I miss it, though, warts and all. Those were all the things that kept the normies off of it, which I think kept it a better place. Smaller communities with curious people are much better. Which is why I'm here instead of Reddit. When Reddit finally dies, if everyone comes here I bet Lemmy will be pretty miserable, too. It's the people. Not everyone belongs in the online society.

[–] Uli@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 day ago

Yeah, there is a lot to miss about those days. Seems naive looking back to not have known that those early-net vibes could not last.

I subscribed to a writing magazine in the late 90s or so and they had a web forum. It was amazing to be able to post my writing online and get feedback from a community of people who were virtually always friendly (if sometimes blunt) and dedicated to the craft. I miss that genuine feeling of community, seeing the same pool of people around you so often that you notice when someone's been gone a while.

It can't be the same now for a lot of reasons, but I agree that Lemmy and its Fediverse counterparts (I've only been on Lemmy) are the closest thing we have now. And having recently looked in on the alternative, I just notice reddit getting worse and worse and Lemmy getting better and better.

We should enjoy this time when this world is small. And welcome the refugees as they arrive. Would love for the people to own the means of production, but at this point I will be thrilled if the people can at least come together and seize control of the means of meme production.

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 4 points 1 day ago

Now the internet is full of assholes who aren’t just autistic, but are self-aware assholes who profit from it in terms of money or attention.

100 percent. I was born in 1969. For me the best decade was the 90's. But I had a lot of fun in the 80's too.

[–] tal@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

The very late 80’s and early 90’s were the heyday of computing and internet for me. It was the Wild West and everyone in it was mostly young and nerdy. My people.

I think that the 1970s -- at least in the US -- would have been CB radio and stuff like phreaking on the then-new long-distance telecom infrastructure.

[–] BaroqueInMind@lemmy.one 3 points 1 day ago

Everything you said here is on point and I also identify with all of it.

[–] Wytch@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was just a kid but I did learn about computers in the late 80s. I remember a programming course in the summer that left an impression, though I foolishly never pursued it further.

What I miss most is the wonder. The fascination has mostly all evaporated. Turns out putting a computer in your pocket that your life relies heavily on takes some of the fun away from learning.

I'm trying to recapture it these days by switching to Linux across all my devices and building RasPi projects.

Should have held onto that Lisa II. Probably in a landfill somewhere now, but if I'd known...

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 1 points 1 day ago

I remember a programming course in the summer that left an impression, though I foolishly never pursued it further.

Yep, even tho I do ok and I'm retired, I definitely wish that I had kept pursing it. I actually enjoyed programming in my BASIC class in school. But for some reason, it just never clicked with me that I could do it as a job.

I would be way wealthier if I had pursued it. I have no excuse. It literally just never occurred to me that I could do it as a job.

I grew up in a very rural town, population less that 2,000 people.

Now that I retired early and collect a pension, I am looking to pick up where I left off. Just for fun. :)

Trying to install linux on my PC today as a matter of fact.

[–] tal@lemmy.today 7 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Back in the 1980s, a number of phone networks didn't charge (or didn't charge much) for local calls, but charged a lot for long-distance calls.

So while one didn't have the Internet, this meant that one could link up various BBSes via FidoNet. Each BBS could, on a regular schedule, call up a few linked BBSes near it, and forward messages along.

It was a federated system which permitted for forum discussion, something in common with the Threadiverse today. Some of those messages were archived.

https://www.sensitiveresearch.com/Archive/FidoNet/

A major component of FidoNet is (was, whatever) its newsletter, FidoNews. I started it in 1984; as of this writing (1999) it's in its 15th year, and has been published weekly from the start. It is the meta-network, a means to discuss the network itself.

https://www.sensitiveresearch.com/Archive/FidoNet/FidoNews/index.html

Let us investigate the first issue of this newsletter, a snapshot of culture and see how it differs from our own environment!

https://www.sensitiveresearch.com/Archive/FidoNet/FidoNews/1984/FIDO102.NWS

We have content about network security!

Fido is pretty secure, but there have been a few instances where callers gave them selves SYSOP priveleges, and ran amok ... the cure is quite simple.

NEVER NEVER NEVER have your "main" Fido directory available as a download or upload area. Always make sure there is no path that can reach your .BBS files. It is OK to have it as a SYSOP only area, never let it be accessed by NORMAL users.

We have content about piracy and that vile DRM!

Now, it seems, software publishers are getting to be more and more uptight about people either A)Pirating their software (most of which isn't worth the disk it was copied on) or B)Making honest, legitimate backups of their valuable software.

We have content about the potential for government regulation of forums, common carrier legal status, and how it might spell doom for network discussion!

The underlying issue here is one of control: who is liable for the contents of a BBS? It was related to me (by someone who had lawyers persue it) that the status of BBS's is quite up in the air; are they common carriers (ie. the phone co.) or are they publishers (ie. newspapers). Phone companies have limited liability because they provide a medium, and not the contents, and are generally not liable. (If you arrange a sale for a stolen bicycle by phone, Pacific Bell is not resonsible). Publishers control their contents, and I think are liable for even the contents of their classified ads, though that is obviously impossible to ensure.

You really should voice your opinion on this issue. It will not mark you as a political radical, and the FBI will not harrass your neighbors. It is your right, and our right to free communications.

Losing this case will be a large step towards regulating BBSs. Regulation will mean the death of BBSs as we know it. We are unregulated, and are quite responsible and take care of our own problems. The trouble makers are far and few between.

Apparently, people back then didn't always back up data and sometimes lost it!

Oh boy ... the hot news this week is that Fido #1 dropped dead. The hard disk is in the junk pile. Any articles that were submitted for this weeks newsletter are lost forever. Please send them again, I'll see if I cant hold on to them.

Fido is running on two floppies, no room for anything. Until further notice, Fido cannot be downloaded from #1. I have a solution though; I'm getting an ancient old multibuss machine,three 8 inch floppies, at least 660K each, for a total of 1.98 megs. If I can get double sided drives, that might go up to almost 3 megs. It will take a week or two, though.

skims further

And here we are at Issue #26, 1985, and we've got people trying to form a PAC because they're worried about politics in Washington not going their way:

https://www.sensitiveresearch.com/Archive/FidoNet/FidoNews/1985/FIDO226.NWS

The Dog Barks in Washington

We may be getting some power soon. I'm hearing rumors that a "FidoPAC" is in its first stages of birth.

For those of you who are unfamiliar with politics (as I pretty much am myself), a PAC is a Political Action Committee. I gather that they lobby for specific issues, make campaign contributions, and so forth.

With this in mind, a FidoPAC sounds like a pretty good idea.
It's sure as taxes (literally) that the guys in Washigton are going to be passing laws which affect us. It's only common sense that we should try to provide our input into that lawmaking process.

I don't know if necessarily the past was necessarily quite as different as memory might suggest. :-)

[–] ExtremeDullard@lemmy.sdf.org 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I'm old enough to remember the 70s and 80s computers fondly, but mostly because it was my youth and everything that happens when you're young seems rosier.

But more importantly, I'm old enough to know the 90s' beige computers young people in the retrocomputing community lovingly restore and preserve today were utter shit. Most boring, uninspired commodity hardware ever.

And now I understand what my mom used to say about furniture from the 50s and 60s: vintage is all the shit we couldn't get rid of fast enough when I was young that's sold at insane prices today.

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think you have a few rose lenses between you and your memories. There was a reason why FidoNet, say, had a bunch of nicknames like "FIght-o-Net" back then. The things people argued about weren't all that different from now.

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Hmmm, maybe. But I don't remember it being nearly as prominent right now. Here on Lemmy, post a picture of a cute dog and prepare for replies with variations of, "Yeah, well now that Trump is president, get used to not being able to afford a dog!" or "Wow, look at that. I'll never be able to afford a house now. Since fascists voted in a dictator. The closest I'll get to a dog is having to eat dog food because it's all I can afford on my way to the deathcamps!"

Ugh, it just EVERYWHERE now. Also back then it seemed to be smarter people arguing because the cost of admission was higher to get into the computer world--both in intelligence and money.

But to your point, I wasn't THAT smart or rich, so I guess I was never in the hardcore argument worlds. I was reading BASIC magazine and trying to write cool programs that showed colored lines. BBS was more of "OMG I am talking to someone in another state without using the mail!" lolol

[–] ZDL@ttrpg.network 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's just raw numbers.

If one in 100,000 people are total shitheels, in an environment with a million users (and I don't think FidoNet was anywhere NEAR that size ever!) you've got ten total shitheels.

Today there's 5.5 billion people on the Internet. That would be over half a million total shitheels that can interact with you.

[–] Hamartiogonic@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 day ago

Totally agree. It’s all about the numbers, and that also makes the modern internet such a hostile place. You can think of any marginal group you would rarely encounter, or worry about IRL, but in the Internet, that tiny percentage translates to thousands or even millions of people.

It’s not just assholes and idiots either. This applies to thieves, blackmailers, creeps, and all the other kinds of people you would not want to sit next to in a crowded bus. There are easily several thousand of each type.

[–] Uli@sopuli.xyz 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I am maybe misplaced in this conversation. I was born in 1990. I do feel a deep nostalgia for early chat rooms and IRC. So much so that I'm trying to build up a chat platform of my own.

In comparison to the time of asking people their A/S/L and just hanging out talking about how our lives are different, there are now maybe four (or five?) categories of potentially society-ending threats hanging around our cultural zeitgeist. All of them addressable, but it just hangs around every internet thread like a miasma now.

But I do think we'll find ourselves nostalgic for this time in a similar way that we look back on the 80's. In the same way it became possible in the mid 70's to just buy some off-the-shelf components and assemble them into personal computers that can be sold en masse, it is every year more and more possible for a relative novice (such as myself) to do something like create their own chat room app. With some prior experience and the help of AI, I've got the bare bones of a shift-left style DevSecOps stack, and it feels really exciting. It feels like I'm a guy in the 70's in his garage putting a prototype personal computer together, the way you can abstract your requirements from deployed resources in CI/CD. I envision a near future where corporate capitalistic social media becomes stale and increasingly awful (status quo) and the average consumer can have an idea for an app and have a fully hardened back end system to support it in the span of an afternoon. I'm looking forward to a new crop of communication technologies that we collectively develop as a people to tackle the overarching issues which affect us all. Imagine if we could all organize to efficiently locate ideal candidates for public office and democratically work out our differences in environments where peaceful debate and separate chill zones are both encouraged, rather than profit-driven systems where outrage is king. We can do so much better, and we are just now on the cusp of having all the tools to enable the average person to finally be able to help themselves.

I'm sorry for the tangent, and for polluting this thread with all of this. I know it's not really on topic, I'm just waiting for tests to process and really pumped up about starting a revolution later, idk, maybe, I mean, like only if you feel like revolting.

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

A/S/L

I legit got laid doing that in aol chatrooms. One girl I ended up dating for 4 years. Met her in aol chat room. Started with a/s/l. Met her at the food court in the mall. Kissed her at her car. She moved in with me a month later.

Good times. I ended up being clever as fuck in chat. Thankfully women like humor and wit more than looks. It's the only reason I got laid then and the only reason I get laid now. haha

[–] bad_news@lemmy.billiam.net 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I am that old and I do, but not specifically because of less drama. If you were on the right MUD or BBS, things could get VERY spicy, and the concept of moderation kind of didn't exist yet. What I miss is the feeling of possibility and tech not being a grift to scam normies.

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oh good points! The scam shit wasn't really thought about as much.

[–] bad_news@lemmy.billiam.net 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The fundamental model was naive trust... it was beautiful but doomed, like a cherry blossom on the wind...

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[–] ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was young, early teens in the mid to late 80s, so I remember the time but not particularly fondly.

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 1 points 1 day ago

I was teen too. I know some of it is nostalgia glasses, but I had fun. But unlike a lot of my classmates from that time, I don't think they were the highlights of my life.

Def fun tho, and I do think it was a simpler time. I think the 24/7 access to news and media and online bitching has made things a bit worse.

The world definitely was NOT safer back then, but we weren't shown it 24 hours a day. The doomscrollers on Lemmy actually have made even lemmy less cool that it should be. Back then bad news was just for 6 oclock news or newspapers. Rest of the time was spent fucking around.

So it was easier to just play around, hang out, and 1980's sci-fi books were awesome to read back then. Not everything was as dystopian as it is now.

Funny thing is, I am living that future. My gf was arguing with Alexa ai yesterday. I was cleaning out the robot vacuum cleaner that was filled up with some dog hair, and the computer I carry in my pocket as a phone is more powerful than any desktops back then.

But fuck all, it's not as fun as I thought it would be! And OMG the bitching and moaning I hear from people and online all the time.

WTF?! That's easily the most irritating thing about modern day. Give it a fucking rest and go out to a park and enjoy some trees and sunshine.

[–] schizo@forum.uncomfortable.business 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I'm not quite THAT old, but I certainly remember the early 90s.

Tech was all new and cool, and I remember very much reading computer shopper or going to various computer stores looking at all the new cool shit I desperately wanted but could in no way afford.

And, of course, the BBS lists that were in the back of computer shopper and various other things like that: I spent uh, more time than I should admit arguing about stupid shit online via local BBSes and Fidonet and a couple of other networks. But, even then, you're right: the absolute hostility was very high, but it was about who had the "right" computer, or my dumb 13 year old opinion of which games were fun, and the level of absolute grumpiness was way lower.

(As an aside, those FTN-style networks do still exist, and still have people having conversations on them, and it's still pretty great.)

Now even the hardware is boring: oh gee, the new CPUs are 5% faster for $600! Oh yay! New video cards which are 10% faster for $1800! Like who gives a shit anymore. The days of there being generational or even every-other-generational improvements sufficient to justify prices of buying it are quite dead, and I don't know if that's just physics being a pain or if it's straight up engineering design choices. Both, probably.

Anyway I'll stop internet Boomering and go take my metamucil and watch the wheel.

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah, the tech we have is nicer, slicker, and faster. Most just works until it doesn't, then buy another. But I keep feeling like I SHOULD be excited, but I'm not.

I legit and thinking of dialing it all back, going old school and just fucking around w an old computer that can hardly do anything cool.

I mean, that excitement almost came back with raspberry pi, but not it's pretty commercial. AI sort had that thrill, but now it's so good and so fast, the newness wore off.

I recently retired (early retirement), and thought what all my free time I was gonna do and learn all the latest tech. Um, no. Now I want to do old tech as the hobby. lmao

[–] schizo@forum.uncomfortable.business 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I mean, eBay exists. You can get a Commodore 64, a Mac II-era mac, or a 486 for not that much money.

I have a giant pile of retro stuff including those, and an absurdly expensive Pentium 1ghz box with a proper Vortex 2 and 3dfx voodoo 5 card, sitting around for retro gaming.

Which uh, mostly is all I do anymore. There's also a TON of modern improvements to emulate floppy drives, replace hard drives with SD cards, and even new video and sound cards that are waaaaay better than what you had to deal with when the hardware was new.

It's not as cheap as it was 5 years ago, but it's still reasonable if you have an era you're after and kinda stay focused on one or two retro computers and don't, say, decide you want to own one of every G3 and G4 tower that was made or anything insane like that.

....stop looking at me like that.

There's also a ton of Youtubers that are touching all sorts of rare and expensive hardware that's a good watch, too. (8 Bit Guy, LGR, Adrian's Digital Basement, Necroware)

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 1 points 1 day ago

Yeah, I can definitely see myself going down the same path as you. lol

[–] tal@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago

Now even the hardware is boring: oh gee, the new CPUs are 5% faster for $600! Oh yay! New video cards which are 10% faster for $1800! Like who gives a shit anymore. The days of there being generational or even every-other-generational improvements sufficient to justify prices of buying it are quite dead, and I don’t know if that’s just physics being a pain or if it’s straight up engineering design choices. Both, probably.

Silver lining: it makes personal computers a lot less-expensive. Your system isn't running at a quarter the speed of current systems and in need of replacement three years after it came out of the factory.

On the video cards...parallel processing is actually still improving at a fair clip -- like, the GPUs aren't improving quite as fast as the CPUs were back then, but they are improving. I think that a major factor is that today, a big chunk of marketshare shifted from desktops to laptops and then laptops to smartphones. That means that while, yes, you can go out and get a tower that can crunch a lot of data in parallel, most software out there isn't going to use it, because a lot of people are using systems that are under power-usage constraints.

[–] ocean@lemmy.selfhostcat.com 2 points 1 day ago

I’m not that old but you can filter things on some Lemmy apps. I filter most annoying political things, the far right. But most things are inherently political.

I just like my handful of hobbies tho so I’m there with you

[–] tal@lemmy.today 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

ANSI art!

wget http://artscene.textfiles.com/ansi/welcomes/brokrose.ans && 
    ansilove -R2 brokrose.ans

It looks like it was more a 1990s thing, but it extended to the 1980s.

[–] Rhoerii@lemy.lol 2 points 1 day ago

I was totally into the that art scene! lmao I'd even print that shit out on my dot-matrix printer!