for real though
I'm getting a divorce on the surface because she cheated on me.
but the reality is she isn't ok with me sharing emotions, or being vulnerable.
fuck toxic masculinity, and it's pervasive grip that has strangled so much
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Good for you man (no sarcasm or anything, I'm being serious). My last relationship was toxic, she would intentionally piss me off, to the point that she would tell me to hit her, and when I'd get pissed off and rage or just break down she would tell me I had anger issues.
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I had a girlfriend once (briefly) who legit got mad at me for crying. Like, "stop that fucking shit" and walked out of the room mad.
She also believed that a guy resting their head on the girl's shoulder or lap or whatever made them look weak.
Anyway, she's gone and, last I knew, absolutely miserable.
My wife? Amazing and completely the opposite of the above. I don't know wtf I was thinking before.
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Been there, did that. Now we're ten days into this Parenthood thing and will raise our boy to be as connected to his feelings as I can be.
As a woman dating an amazing woman after dating a bunch of duds, both male and female... I feel seen. Sometimes I really don't know how to react when she doesn't get mad, mercilessly tease me, or take advantage of me when I am vulnerable. And we've been together for several years.
Happy for you OP!
I hit the same jackpot. I salute you, brother.
Me too, I think. I mean she keeps telling me that and acting like it, but I guess I have PTSD or something because we're a year in and on the inside I can't convince myself of it.
I feel like she's either lying or doesn't understand herself well enough to know how she'll react if I really show all my feelings. Especially since there are conflicting signals. For example she says she likes that I make her feel safe. Well, will she still feel safe if she knows how vulnerable I am? I just can't bring myself to really believe it, after so many relationships teaching me the opposite.
I had the exact same problem at the beginning and I solved it by accident. A couple of months ago we went to the movies and watched Guardians of the Galaxy 3 (stupid movie, do not recommend). So I started crying when
The dam broke and it went on for like 15 minutes. I already thought to myself that this is it. This is the beginning of the end for this relationship. But instead of getting punished for any sign of vulnerability, she took my hand when she noticed and squeezed it. She whispered that it's ok. Our relationship completely changed over night, I changed over night, I found out what mutual love actually means, that every single relationship before that was anything BUT normal and kind of a toxic waste of my time. In my mid fucking 30s.Spoiler
that fucking cyborg rabbit died.
I understand that this is kind of a all-in situation. Eighter wreck your shit forever or change your life for the better forever. So thats horrifying. But at least you have the chance to finally quell your fears?
Edit: I love how the spoiler tag does not work on Memmy.
Yeah this is exactly what a world where toxic masculinity is empowered looks like. We really just expect half the population to never display emotion and that's robbed the world of so much richness and color.
… and other fairy tales
Feelings of a almost human nature? Congrats!
I have found one like that. 16 years (so far) of happiness, trust, and mental health.
Wow! You rock!
Sincerely hope it'll go on like that forever - and it probably will, 16 years is a loooong time
Is it possible to learn this power?
Witch?
Straight in the kokoro
Hoping to find a woman like that, we both love each other for who we are, and that's it. That's life