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If you're curious, I do not support doomerism, pessimism and nihilism, I prefer being optimistic when it comes to finding love, and I've deleted my Twitter account back in September 2023 in protest to Elon Musk owning the site.

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[-] sylver_dragon@lemmy.world 25 points 5 months ago

I’ve deleted my Twitter account

Now stop reading Twitter. You can't fix folks who want to wallow misery.

[-] DylanMc6@lemmy.dbzer0.com -1 points 5 months ago

I'm using a Twitter frontend

[-] sylver_dragon@lemmy.world 9 points 5 months ago

"Now stop reading Twitter".
If you're using a front end, you're still reading Twitter.

[-] DylanMc6@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

And I'm still giving traffic to Elon Musk unintentionally in the process?

[-] sylver_dragon@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

Kinda yes and kinda no. While the front end you're using will necessarily request data from Twitter, which means there will be traffic generated, it's bot traffic which is much less valuable.

But, as much as I agree with the "fuck Musk" sentiment, really it's about your own well being. Twitter is a cesspit. Wallowing in a cesspit, whether physical or virtual, is bad for your health. Even if you aren't in the official cesspit, just a pool filled with the same shit, it's just as unhealthy.

[-] kibblebits@quokk.au 6 points 5 months ago

The solution is to kill billionaires and make life worth living.

[-] Rhynoplaz@lemmy.world 8 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

It may not solve all of our problems, but there's only one way to find out!

[-] CapuccinoCoretto@lemmy.world 2 points 5 months ago

All? No. A great many? Yes.

[-] DylanMc6@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 5 months ago

I think it's better to tax the billionaires and make it so everyone has the same equal amount of wealth, even the poor.

[-] kibblebits@quokk.au 0 points 5 months ago

No, they won’t let that happen. They are also not good humans. They don’t mind when we die, so don’t simp for them.

[-] DylanMc6@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 5 months ago

Do you think I should study socialism a little bit more? What do you think of democratic socialism?

[-] Meatwagon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 5 months ago

Finding love: You get a hobby that you participate in with other people. You have to be friends first before entering a relationship because why would you want to be with anyone who isn't your friend or doesn't share the same interests you do?

Everything else: Yeah we're fucked

[-] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

I'm starting to think it's a generational thing another generation will have to rebel against - maybe just by getting sick of its shit. Interesting question. I know my answer doesn't have anything to do with socialism, but it's all I got.

[-] blarghly@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

Please provide screenshots of specific examples if you want a more productive discussion.

But having encountered this sort of doomer sentiment in the past and dabbled in it myself, will create a bifurcated answer.

For the individual, the answer is to create in him a belief that he can change his outcomes via effort. While it is very difficult to convince someone to change who is resistant to it, the best path is likely creating a supportive, long term relationship with that person that is empathetic to their desires and struggles, and then to show them real life examples of people who had their same problems and were able to succeed.

For society, my optimistic side says that the main problem is a lack of facilitation of living happy, healthy lives among young people where socialization is easy and encouraged. In our current model, the default is to be mentally and physically unhealthy, and to silo yourself in task-specific spaces, like home, work, etc. This means that there is a large chunk of the population - those who are unhealthy but with median standards - who are simply not attractive enough as mates to attract anyone they are attracted to. And then for the people who are sufficiently attractive, there are few opportinities to have spontaneous interactions with attractive strangers. So by creating conditions which overcome these issues, we could solve a very large chunk of this problem.

My less optimistic side says that the breakdown of monogamous patterns in society and the influx of information about the world via the internet has created higher modal expectations in women than the modal man can meet and results in an asymmetric "dating up" pattern in society, where it becomes a simultaneously entrenched and unspoken reality that men with greater dateability will have a surplus of female partners, while men with lesser dateability will have almost none. Yes, I'm aware that this sounds very black-pill-y. But idk, the math checks out - especially based on the number of (liberal/left leaning, educated) women I've encountered who have explicitly told me that they would happily be in a relationship with a man where he could fuck around on the side but they couldn't (or some variation of this, like a girls only rule) - just as long as he was a good, committed, and supportive partner to them. And then the solution to this problem would be (best case) a sort of monastic class of less dateable men, or (worst case) the "spontaneous" creation of wars to burn off the excess less dateable men, or (worster case) violence from the less dateable men on society until some sort of equilibrium is reached.

And yes, I am aware of how doomer this sounds. I suggest we try to implement the optimistic solution first and hope it works.

[-] DylanMc6@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 5 months ago

What about for the collective? I think that the individual should have their freedoms and liberties, but the individual can't do it alone - that's why the collective is very important. The individual and the collective go hand-in-hand.

[-] blarghly@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

I'm confused what point you are trying to make...

[-] DylanMc6@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 5 months ago

I can't provide screenshots, but I came across a tweet that has a meme that shows fanart of Diane Foxington from The Bad Guys with the text "daily reminder that you'll never have this" and most of the replies are just "oh no, I can't find love, it's over". Well, I think it's NOT over - it's NEVER over. It's never too late to find love.

[-] cattywampas@lemmy.world 1 points 5 months ago

Read history. You'll realize that everything new is kind of old, things have been bad before, things have probably been worse before, and most importantly people have made things better time and time again.

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