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Please use AI (shawnsmucker.substack.com)

submitted 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) by Syndication@lemmy.today to c/fuck_ai@lemmy.world

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[-] tuckerm@feddit.online 49 points 4 months ago

This is so well-written. I overhear people at work talk about using AI for a meal plan, or a workout plan, and I always think, "Someone in your life would love to share their passion for cooking or exercise with you." Screw it, I need to start bringing it up with those people.

[+] sureshot0@discuss.online -17 points 4 months ago

“Someone in your life would love to share their passion for cooking or exercise with you.”

There is a reason people talk to ai instead of people, unfortunately. If you don't know for a fact that someone has people in their life who enjoy listening to them, you shouldn't suggest that those people somehow exist, not unless you're sure that they do. You have to be sure as in you really know, not sure as in "I'm sure they mean well." People often do not actually mean well.

[-] Tibi@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 4 months ago

The thing with is: if you have passion for something you want to let others experience these feelings as well. And i dont need to know someone to tell them about my passion projects and they only need the tiniest of positive response for me to enjoy helping them... I hope you have something you are passionate about to understanding what i am trying to convey. The crucial part is the "i dont need to know someone well to enjoy helping them" and i know for a fact that a huuuge percentage of people share that mindset. Sooo:

I know there is someone in your life that would love to share their passion for cooking with you!

And btw: suggesting there is someone in your vicinity to help you with your problem leads to them masking around for help leads to the person broadening their circle which makes it evermore likely to find someone which actually wants to help.

[-] sureshot0@discuss.online -1 points 4 months ago

Some people don't get a positive response. I know that's really hard to believe. And from an outsider's perspective you see why they get a negative response, because a lot of these folks just "say things wrong." It's really hard to explain unless you've seen it before.

[-] Tibi@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 4 months ago

That is not hard to believe. But I believe their social skills will improve by beeing social. ie the solution for these people is to ask more people for help.

[-] sureshot0@discuss.online 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

While some individuals with developmental delay (AN INVISIBLE DISABILITY AND NOT AT ALL WHAT YOU'RE PICTURING) can improve their social skills by being social, for many, their disability (NOT WHAT YOU'RE PICTURING, STOP USING YOUR IMAGINATION), is something that they were born with, is permanent, and requires outside assistance. It is not helpful to tell people with no social circle, whether due to disability, poverty, depression, or something else, that they can magically be social or become social somehow without outside assistance. You may be capable of just being social and you probably have been since the day you were born. There are a myriad of reasons why someone wouldn't have a social circle, and many of those people cannot simply "be social." That isn't how it works.

I have been trying not to say the words disability or poverty or depression because I knew your brain would shut off and you'd focus only on your own imagination and not what I'm trying to say. You'd also probably imagine that I'm talking about a small population of people.

Edit: Why don't you write a poem about paying psych workers at least $40 an hour?

[-] Tibi@discuss.tchncs.de 2 points 4 months ago

Your assumptions about me are off by a lot. (Except for me thinking of a small population, which made me reflect, thank you)

I did improve my social skills by forcing myself to talk to people for half a year every Thursday. Someone telling me that "beeing social" is a skill would have helped me.

And it's obvious you believe it helps some people if I say "be social". Why is an advice "not beeing helpful" to some reason enough not to say it?

[-] sureshot0@discuss.online 1 points 4 months ago

Your assumptions about me are off by a lot. (Except for me thinking of a small population, which made me reflect, thank you)

It's not you in particular. Most people, when they hear autism, intellectual disability, or developmental delay picture a drooling helpless patient wearing a helmet who barely knows he's indoors. Those guys exist, and they deserve care, but they do not represent the vast majority of disabled people.

And it’s obvious you believe it helps some people if I say “be social”.

No, I don't think it helps at all. The people who are capable of being social are already social. Some may or may not use AI but the people who are capable of hearing "be social" and acting on it are largely already social and do not totally depend on AI. The reason you're seeing "normal people" get AI psychosis is because THAT IS WHAT DISABLED PEOPLE LOOK LIKE. THEY LOOK ""NORMAL."" Vulnerable people do not have a sign on their forehead that says I'm Vulnerable. That isn't how it works.

Why is an advice “not beeing helpful” to some reason enough not to say it?

Because it's exactly like saying "you should just make more money," in my opinion.

[-] the_riviera_kid@lemmy.world 31 points 4 months ago

That poem hits hard, very well done.

[+] sureshot0@discuss.online -21 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I saw it as "I know your circumstances better than you do," type of toxic positivity, but I guess art is subjective

edit: not trying to shit on this guy, but people aren't as empathetic or interested in each other as he makes it out

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 24 points 4 months ago

This says a whole lot more about you than I think you realize.

[+] sureshot0@discuss.online -6 points 4 months ago

No, pretty sure it said the thing about me I meant to say.

People who are very socially isolated deserve compassion, and part of that compassion means first acknowledging that they are in fact socially isolated, and do not have secret friends they can rely on.

[-] ZDL@lazysoci.al 10 points 4 months ago

"I can't digest milk, so you shouldn't eat cheese in front of me."

Are you deserving of compassion? Sure. Does this extend to the point that we should eschew saying things that are helpful and even welcome to the overwhelming majority of the population? Not a chance.

Sorry, but not sorry.

[-] sureshot0@discuss.online -5 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

That's just nowhere near comparable. I didn't say that people can't have friends in front of people who don't. I'm also not talking about myself.

People who don't have any social circle aren't helped by being told that they secretly actually DO have a social circle that they're just not utilizing. I happen to have a lot of patience for weird or awkward people trying to share their interests with me, but the majority of people aren't very patient. There are some people who just can't make that kind of thing happen for themselves, and so require others (caregivers or family members, usually) to assist them in socializing. These days, such people are turning to AI. A lot of people just don't have the patience to help others learn social graces. This is the reality.

[-] Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 4 months ago

Your reality really. You can change all this over time.

[-] sureshot0@discuss.online 2 points 4 months ago

No, the individuals I am talking about almost universally require outside assistance to form a social circle, and many of them do use AI to socialize. Not because it helps them be better at socializing, but because being lonely is painful and talking to an AI is a substitute for what they actually need.

[-] FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe 2 points 4 months ago

They’re not gonna get better at socializing by using ai for everything instead of talking to people. I don’t really have any true friends. I’ve got family, which is great, but I don’t have any friends that I go out and hang with or online friends that I game with or anything like that. I’m shit at socializing. But when I have something I want to do, I don’t just give up and use ai, I either try to reach out to an acquaintance or I look for an online community to ask for help. And yeah, that comes with the risk of getting a negative reaction and often my anxiety gives me a hell of a time but it’s the only way I’m gonna get better at it. And maybe eventually I’ll have done it so much that it’ll be normal to me instead of the horribly daunting thing it currently is

This isn’t telling people that “they secretly actually DO have a social circle they’re just not utilizing” it’s telling people to utilize the social circle they have, and for some people that might not be much at all. And that’s okay, this message isn’t directly speaking to them. The heart of it still remains: it’s better to turn to people than ai. And if you don’t know anyone, then try to meet or find someone. If it’s hobby related then see if there’s a local group (like a local knitting or book club) or try to find an online community. It’s scary as shit, but it’s worth it

[-] sureshot0@discuss.online 1 points 4 months ago

utilize the social circle they have

Some people do not have a social circle at all whatsoever.

it’s better to turn to people than ai.'

OK. It's better to eat salad than to eat a hamburger. Does saying this materially help people with food addictions or who live in food deserts? Does it help someone with no access to salad to tell him that it's better to eat salad?

[-] FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe 1 points 4 months ago

If you’re gonna quote me then don’t leave out the relevant parts: “it’s telling people to utilize the social circle they have, and for some people that might not be much at all. And that’s okay, this message isn’t directly speaking to them.” I’d really like to repeat this point here that things don’t have to apply to every situation. Just bc you can think of a scenario where this post might be less relevant, doesn’t mean it’s bad. This is like going onto posts about nuts being healthy or recipes that have peanuts in them and angrily commenting “not everyone can eat nuts >:( some people are allergic.” The post isn’t for them and that’s okay

Also, you're being defeatist. Just because someone lives in a food desert or has a food addiction, should they give up on eating healthy? Should they say they can’t help it and not try to be healthy? No, it’s obviously still worth it to do what they can. That’s going to mean different things for different people, but the end goal of eating healthy is still the same. Similarly, just because some people are socially isolated doesn’t mean they should give up. They should still try to develop social relationships. It’s not gonna happen overnight, but trying to slowly make progress is better than just accept social isolation. Nobody deserves to be isolated and alone

Also, you say this doesn’t materially help anyone, but if the people around those who are socially isolated start reaching out to people for help instead of ai, then that could include the socially isolated person. (No matter how alone someone may feel, they do know people and people know them, there’s just no connection. They’re not friends but they could be neighbors, classmates, or colleagues. And this post is encouraging people to reach out to those around them.) So yes, this post could actually help encourage people to reach out to socially isolated people

[-] sureshot0@discuss.online 1 points 4 months ago

No dude it’s not helpful to tell someone to “just do it” when they can’t just do it. You’ve got to meaningfully help them do it. I’m not gonna repeat myself again.

[-] FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe 1 points 4 months ago

Okay then can you point out where I said to “just do it”?

[-] sureshot0@discuss.online 1 points 4 months ago

Nope. We’re done. I repeated myself over and over. I’m sorry if you’re still confused.

[-] vane@lemmy.world 19 points 4 months ago

Watch Netflix, use Google, Facebook. Buy Apple. Play Ubisoft and EA games. Eat McDonalds. Order on Amazon.

Complain about how hard is to live now.

[-] flango@lemmy.eco.br 16 points 4 months ago

And be sure to use AI when your next child
gets married, so that you can write them
the perfect toast or poem or speech or song
because no one wants to hear your
words, the actual poorly written words
of a parent (you) who changed
hundreds of diapers for said child or fed
them in the middle of the
night from your actual body.

Shawn Smucker

[-] uuj8za@piefed.social 10 points 4 months ago

Wow. This is great. I need to have this framed somewhere.

[-] heartSagan5@lemmy.zip 2 points 4 months ago

This reads like texting me is like poking AI because I answer promptly and don’t small talk because I might be AuDHD

[-] silasmariner@programming.dev 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

How promptly?

Edit as of 6d - not very goddamn promptly. Boss wants the report in on Monday.

this post was submitted on 29 May 2026

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