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submitted 4 days ago by JettuhGlowie@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

Whenever i talk to people about privacy, specifically my friends when i tell them why i switched to Signal and stopped using WhatsApp, i'm always met with people saying that i'm just making no sense and "why would you care so much if you have nothing to hide? I don't care that meta sees that stuff" and some people are just so stubborn to understand that they might even settle on the "what would a billion dollar company want from me specifically?". It makes me mad how people refuse to even consider alternatives and open their mind a bit. What do you think?

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[-] chewypoops@lemmy.world 24 points 3 days ago

"Unlock your phone and hand it to me"

"Yeah, that's what I thought"

[-] Saffire@sh.itjust.works 10 points 3 days ago

"Let me take a quick look through your browser history to confirm that you in fact have nothing to hide."

[-] RampantParanoia2365@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Lock eyes and unzip their pants.

[-] hanrahan@slrpnk.net 8 points 3 days ago

do you shit with the door open , let me. take a few pics of you doing that

hand over your phone and let me take a look.

[-] dropdrip@lemmy.ml 10 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Shift the conversation towards autonomy, dignity and self-respect.

The user's interaction with the-billion-dollar-company's software is unpaid labour, which is why they profit and the user suffers. They suffer from having their data stolen; they suffer the expenses fostered on to them; they pay for the computers that spy on them; they pay for the electricity to run the spyware; they pay for the data-subscriptions that facilitate the theft of their data. They cover all the expenses of a billion-dollar-company and are deprived of any profit. They do not even garner a wage.

If one wishes to move towards the point of "my data is worthless" point out the company's profits or even its speculative valuations. Clearly it's not worthless. The products that are derived from their exploitation lead to even greater profits for those companies. "A.I." is a looting of the collective commons. A privatization of humanity's interaction with computers.

Do they like being exploited? Do they like their batteries draining faster, because their mobile-computer is running software to spy on them? Do they like running out of data because their mobile-computer is forcefully downloading ads and spyware-updates? Do they like ads? Do they like being interrupted by the highest bidder? Do they like annoying notifications that are just ads? Do they like this shitty experience? Are they complete docile slaves? They are less than wage-slaves for they do not even garner a wage! Have some self-respect and dignity!

[-] Wahots@pawb.social 19 points 3 days ago

You have nothing to hide until what was once acceptable rapidly changes.

[-] yermaw@sh.itjust.works 3 points 3 days ago

That's the angle I take. Its fine now, sure. What about when Nazis end up in charge again?

[-] tehmics@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago

And then all the sudden you're a conspiracy nut to be disregarded, all the while they're saying it and doing it out loud and in broad daylight.

[-] munsking@lemmy.world 14 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

do you shot with the door open?

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[-] f34r@sh.itjust.works 80 points 4 days ago

Not caring about privacy because you have nothing to hide is the same thing like opposing freedom of speech because you have nothing to say.

[-] tigermountain@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago

When people say this they're completely missing the point. First, when someone says "I have nothing to hide", they are assuming that whoever is watching or monitoring or surveiling them share the same values they do. You decide to do something and you don't care who knows it because you think "there's nothing wrong with this". What if who is watching you decides "there is something wrong with that? The second point is that, even if you have just the slightest inkling that someone might know what you're thinking or doing, you think and act differently. It's psychology.

[-] vrighter@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 3 days ago

"Can I come watch next time you and your partner have sexy times?"

[-] Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works 5 points 3 days ago

Ask them for their social security number and credit card with ccv code.

[-] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 62 points 4 days ago

“Okay, unlock your phone and hand it over so I can go through it.”

[-] ladicius@lemmy.world 22 points 4 days ago

That's where they all get cold feet. All of them.

[-] pizzaschaartje@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago

I did this once to someone and they were like "ok sure here you go..." I wanted to then check their gallery just to make a point, but I ended up not doing it because it made me so uncomfortable. Guess I won't be fit as a totalitarian regime leader 😆. I just don't understand how some people care THAT little for their own privacy.

[-] yxc999@lemmy.ml 12 points 4 days ago

Next time just open their banking app and start transfering money to your account, let's see how long that lasts.

[-] teawrecks@sopuli.xyz 10 points 4 days ago

You might just be in a bubble of privacy-minded people. I know many people who would hand over their phone unlocked at the drop of a hat. Their digital lives just don't mean anything to them. But more likely, they don't appreciate the damage someone can do with that access.

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[-] ItsMeForRealNow@lemmy.world 23 points 4 days ago

I saw someone on YouTube respond with "give me your phone and let me go into the other room for an hour"

[-] blunket@lemmy.ml 4 points 3 days ago

I tell them privacy is a human right, that I don't need to come up with justifications for why I don't want to be exploited, and that you're only conditioned not to care.

If they don't see my point then I say OK then.

[-] RobotToaster@mander.xyz 36 points 4 days ago

Arguing that you don't care about the right to privacy because you have nothing to hide is no different from saying you don't care about free speech because you have nothing to say. - Edward Snowden

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[-] shweddy@lemmy.world 45 points 4 days ago

Ask to put a camera in their bathroom

[-] take6056@feddit.nl 10 points 3 days ago

The big perspective shift for me, is not that I feel obliged to privacy in public. It's when the institution observing is so big and centralised that it becomes a power issue. I don't care if you (the people) see all that I do in public, I have nothing to hide. I do care when your agenda is to see everything and gain power from it.

  • me some time ago
[-] Auli@lemmy.ca 2 points 3 days ago

That is a good response. The problem is though they are also collecting data when we are in private. Look at what LG and I grantee you other smart TVs are doing.

[-] sanguinepar@lemmy.world 41 points 4 days ago

They need to consider the difference between having something to hide and having something to protect. Privacy is something to protect, regardless of what it might be in aid of.

[-] Juice@midwest.social 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Idk you're basically asking people to think in a way that they really don't process info. Its akin to being like "in order to understand my point you have to complete this trigonometry problem" and they're just gonna go, "nah" and then revert to their heuristic.

They might like Facebook, or really rely on google. So all you can do is talk a little bit about alternatives. Since all these companies spy and steal data, they are speaking from a place of like resignation. Asking to stop using any service is kind of a maximum demand, not in essence (I actually don't believe in min/max political demands) but in affect. Its like, to stop using google would be a major change, require some intimidating technical expertise (are you gonna offer IT support for their Grapheme phone/Linux Mint computer?) and then all the other services are just gonna steal their data anyways. Leaving Facebook is scary and hard, its like an addiction. And like all addictions you can fully know that something is wrong, and still be afraid or fail to quit it. There has to be a breaking point and you're not gonna be able to offer that in one conversation.

The better strategy is to try and find common ground on problems that people are concerned about, like data centers, and then offer actions or political leadership. If we really care about an issue, then the best method I have found is to schedule one on ones and try and draw people into work. If you want to teach then you need a theory of pedagogy and the idea that good ideas can replace bad ideas is fundamentally broken.

[-] RavenofDespair@lemmy.ml 10 points 4 days ago

"I have nothing to share" It's healthy to want privacy and to say I don't want to share.

[-] Auli@lemmy.ca 2 points 3 days ago

This is a good response I typically don't have anything to hide. But do I want to share everything with everyone no.

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[-] ch00f@lemmy.world 31 points 4 days ago

Dynamic pricing.

Your grocery store will know enough about you to charge the maximum amount you're willing to pay and not a penny less.

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[-] waterwasamistake@lemmy.zip 13 points 4 days ago

They don't think they have anything to hide because they think of it as "evil activity"

Reframe it, like sure you are not doing anything bad but these companies don't care about criminal or evil behaviour. For them you are like livestock you only serve one purpose: making them money, there are no morals involved. They would sell your data to absolutely anyone for any reason! YOU can't think of anything bad they could do with your data because YOU are not evil but THEY absolutely are. If an evil person wants your data you shouldn't give it to them because they WILL find a way to use it against us, its a law of nature just like gravity.

[-] Mulligrubs@lemmy.world 25 points 4 days ago
[-] UninterestingVoid@reddthat.com 12 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I know people that would actually do that, it's too risky.

[-] shartgargle@lemmy.zip 9 points 4 days ago

Yeah, way too many people.

[-] banause@feddit.org 2 points 3 days ago

But honestly, usually also those that I would trust with my life.

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[-] anotherspinelessdem@lemmy.ml 19 points 4 days ago

Then why do you close the door when you take a shit?

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[-] MnemonicBump@lemmy.dbzer0.com 20 points 4 days ago

Ask them to unlock their phone and hand it to you. Let you go through whatever you want.

[-] blackbrook@mander.xyz 5 points 3 days ago

"If you have nothing to hide, you must be one boring-ass, useless mutherfucker."

[-] turkalino@sh.itjust.works 21 points 4 days ago

You have nothing to hide from the people currently in power

The people who used to say “I have nothing to hide” the loudest to me changed their tone real quick once Flock cameras started being used for ICE pickups, arresting people for traveling to other states for abortions, etc

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[-] yxc999@lemmy.ml 10 points 4 days ago

"So why do you wear clothes or don't share your credit card details online?"

[-] fubarx@lemmy.world 13 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

A few points:

  • "I have nothing to hide," means you've accepted the premise that the burden of innocence is on you. That you are guilty until proven innocent. There are a couple millenia of jurisprudence, saying 'innocent until proven guilty' should be the default. The US 5th, 6th, and 14th amendments get close, but they don't just come out and say it.

  • "If you give me six lines written by the hand of the most honest of men, I will find something in them which will hang him." This has been attributed to a few people from Cardinal Richelieu to Voltaire. But the crux is, anyone can make someone appear guilty. Doesn't matter if you're innocent. The burden of proof has to be on the accuser, otherwise it's down to chaos, and tyrrany of the powerful and the mob.

  • Personal privacy by default is one of those fundamental rights that gives us control of a lot of things around us. From freely walking down the street, to our shopping habits, license-plate-readers, location-tracking, who we associate with, and our healthcare.

  • Imagine if the rules were changed so any time anyone wanted to use our data, including transactions, web and mobile interactions, credit-card, banking, voting, healthcare, whatever... they had to get explicit, single-use permission. How much weight would be lifted from everyone's shoulder. It means you, the individual are in charge.

  • There's academic data on the psychological effects of surveillance. It has actual effect on one's behavior and mental health: https://academic.oup.com/nc/article/2024/1/niae039/7920510

  • At this point, there are too many privacy leaks. The only reasonable solution is to flip it all on its head. EVERYTHING is private, unless there is a legitimate reason to pierce that veil, and the burden is on those wanting the data.

It'll have financial impacts on many business models. Yes, and? Do better.

[-] Bluegrass_Addict@lemmy.ca 19 points 4 days ago

what's accepted now, can and will be used against you...

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[-] Lettuceeatlettuce@lemmy.ml 11 points 4 days ago

I do have something to hide. I wear clothes, because I don't want everybody to see my naked body. I keep my debit card hidden in my wallet, my keys to my car and house hidden in my pockets, my passwords are hidden in my password manager, my phone's unlock code is a secret, my SSN is hidden on a card in a secure place in my house, which I also lock up securely. I close the stall door when I use the bathroom, I don't walk around with my medical records taped to my back, I don't tell people all the invasive dirty or violent thoughts that randomly pop into my head, and I don't keep my car's title in the front seat, nor my bank account and routing numbers written on my arm.

And I would wager most other people are the same. All of those are completely legitimate things people have to hide, good reasons to keep them secret and locked away. It has nothing to do with being a criminal, or a sick pervert, or a domestic terrorist, or any of the other bullshit fake "explanations" for why people would value their privacy.

And all that doesn't even touch issues like systemic corporate or state oppression, data exploitation, or labor repression. It doesn't touch things like fascist governments coming to power and deciding that certain opinions or expressions of speech are "subversive" and must be banned. How easily "nothing to hide" can become "domestic terrorism" when certain groups come into power.

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[-] Blackfeathr@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago

Ask them for their SSN, bank account number, and how much money they make before taxes.

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[-] DoctorWhoDMC@lemmy.world 10 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Everyone has something to hide. That’s why I’m not posting my online banking password on Facebook or letting anyone install cameras in my toilet.

[-] Psiczar@aussie.zone 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

…for now.

What happens if they outlaw being gay, trans, communist, Jewish, Muslim, autistic…

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[-] teawrecks@sopuli.xyz 11 points 4 days ago

Do they know about algorithmic pricing? Most people don't like the idea of a company charging them more based on how desperate they are.

Do they know about DHS' new Predictive Policing.

Do they know that scammers can use info they gather about them to run scams on their loved ones pretending to be them?

Do they know that there are legitimate reasons to want privacy? Ex. a journalist investigating a politician or corporation, or a single mom trying to keep themselves and their kids away from a crazy ex.

Those who would give up essential liberty to purchase a little temporary safety, deserve neither liberty nor safety.

[-] Kintarian@lemmy.world 12 points 4 days ago

Can I come and search your house? You have nothing to hide so what’s the problem?

[-] LoboAureo@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Let me your phone unblocked and tell me your banking app password then

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