People forget that naturally drifting apart is a perfectly natural and often healthy thing for relationships. Friends at one stage of your life are NOT fit for others. See how drastically things change when they start having families.

You're right though. Relationships are a two way street.

However anybody who blames one party for not reaching out when they ALSO haven't is about as petty as it gets. Relationships take effort to maintain. Most people don't want to hear that. Especially ND folk shoving the onus onto their NT friends.

people @ me: "You never text/call"

Phones work both ways. I've had dozens of "friendships" where absolutely nothing would happen or be said unless I initiate everything

I've since learned to leave those behind, unless the friend is reciprocal once I do start the interaction :)