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[–] drzoidberg@lemmy.world 79 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I cancelled plans once with the excuse that I had to take care of my grandmother.

I wiped her urn off with an anti bacterial wipe, and played videogames.

[–] navi@lemmy.tespia.org 13 points 1 year ago

Still a better teammate than most random queues.

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 63 points 1 year ago (2 children)

If any of my relatives ever read this, you have my full permission to do whatever stupid shit with my ashes you want, the stupider the better. Or if you want to dunk on or generally make a joke out of my passing, that's encouraged too. It would be a nice send-off.

[–] Bread_And_Buried@lemmy.sdf.org 20 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I would much rather people have a laugh, and some relief than the usual horrible process of grieving...

[–] stu@lemmy.pit.ninja 11 points 1 year ago

What's ironic is it's usually the type of people with your type of attitude that I miss and grieve for the most.

[–] Holzkohlen@feddit.de 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Has anyone tried baking with it? I'd make you into pie and let it in too long, so you get cremated twice.

[–] InputZero@lemmy.ml 5 points 1 year ago

As a matter of fact, yes. A few cultures have or do practice Endocannibalism as a death ritual.

[–] speedycat2014@lemmy.world 28 points 1 year ago (1 children)

When my FIL what was a veterinarian was cremated, his remains were in a nice wooden box on his old antique desk. My SIL always referred to it as, "Doc in a box."

[–] 3FingersOfMilk@lemm.ee 16 points 1 year ago

I like her sense of humor lol

[–] GrumpyFortuneCat@lemmy.world 23 points 1 year ago

I have a close friend who's dad very suddenly passed away within the past 2 months and was cremated. I shared this with them on chat. They laughed. I'm still alive...for now.

[–] StalksEveryone@lemmy.villa-straylight.social 21 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If this was true, I bet his dad would’ve laughed.

[–] SouthEndSunset@lemm.ee 1 points 1 year ago

Bet his mum didn’t though.

[–] TIEPilot@lemmy.world 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] 3FingersOfMilk@lemm.ee 7 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Ive got some other dark memes I'd like to share, not sure where the community draws the line lol

[–] TIEPilot@lemmy.world 8 points 1 year ago

I don't think Lemmy is ban happy like reddit. I've got into it w/ a lot of people here and nothing has been deleted nor have I gotten a warning/suspension.

I'm sure there is a line (threats of personal hart/calls to violence) but those are areas 98% of the world never goes.

[–] CheeseRaider@geddit.social 16 points 1 year ago

Wonder if it’s a DOT requirement to have it labeled like that. Or so that people don’t steal your dad.

[–] Glaive0@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

At the funeral home for my FiL talking about urns. We ask about the little ones they have. While doing their little pitch, the funeral director says that “they hold a spoonful of the- the-“ and one of my FiL’s children finishes “spoon full of dad”.

And now I can’t think about cremation without thinking about “spoon full of dad”.

[–] Sotuanduso@lemm.ee 2 points 1 year ago

Only a spoonful.

[–] Smokeydope@lemmy.world -5 points 1 year ago (3 children)

What is this trend of people taking selfies striking the peace sign behind dead relatives remains? Like dude its your dead relative show a little decency not everything has to be social media clout

[–] Duranie@lemmy.film 13 points 1 year ago

Before reading your comment I'd seen the image, laughed, and showed it to my adult son who also snickered. I then told him if he and his brothers don't do something similar when I'm gone, I'll be terribly disappointed.

Everyone has different comfort levels with death. I work in hospice so I see death regularly, and am about as comfortable as I can be with the idea. I hope my son's can be as comfortable too. We're very loving, but share similar sense of humor.

[–] kittenbridgeasteroid@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I mean, it's really just a container filled with bone dust with a decent chance of it being mixed with other people's bone dust.

The only significance it has is what you give it.

[–] Smokeydope@lemmy.world -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Symbolically it represents the 'spirit' of the person who donated the bone dust, there's a reason most people don't use their grandmothers urn as a spitoon even though you totally could. It seems like these kinds of people who take these post could give a little more respect and significance to the last remains of a loved one by not making a cringe selfie with them.

[–] kittenbridgeasteroid@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Yes, that right there is the importance that You put on a container of bone dust of dubious origin. No one else is required to share your opinion.

You have no idea what their relationship was like, and you have no right to judge how another person handles the death of someone close to them.

[–] SulaymanF@lemmy.world -2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Basic human decency is not something that is up for interpretation.

[–] chocobo13z@pawb.social 4 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Having certain beliefs with regards to the sanctity of remains should not be conflated with basic human decency.

[–] SulaymanF@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Better tell Geneva, misusing human remains is still a war crime and outside of war it’s still illegal in most of the world.

[–] octoperson@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

Where I'm from, that's a rude gesture the same as flipping the bird. I was confused what he was trying to convey til this comment clued me in that he's got the peace sign back to front