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Have you ever devoted a significant amount of time to something only to later feel it was pointless? (lemmy.world)

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[–] pdxfed@lemmy.world 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Organized sports.

Loved sports and playing as a kid and was exceptionally gifted at basically all of them I ever tried. Ended up loving a few and before I had a chance to understand the vast difference in joy vs. occupation playing them through college.

Looking back, I didn't enjoy any of the school sports from jr. highschool onward. I still loved the games and playing and practicing on my own, the sport itself, but the organized "competitive" part of it was awful full of horrible adults and structures and painful situations that ate up an enormous amount of time.

I could have played recreationally for 2% of the time and still have enjoyed myself just as much and still loved the sport. The sports-industrial complex in the US brainwashed me into thinking their path was the only way to continue with my love of the sport.

[–] dustyData@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

This is me and music. I love playing, composing and performing. But do I want to be a musician? hell no. The industry is fucked up, abusive, ungrateful and miserable. Sure, for less than the 1% they get to be billionaire celebrities. But for the rest it is unlimited hard work and atrocious conditions without safety nets or benefits and meager pay (A cousin is a pro musician and I get to know all the ins and outs). I want to enjoy music, not work at music. I learned that on the organized swimming competition rings. Didn't get sucked into the machine, but got to see how miserable it can be to do something you love for work, competition or for a living. Chose a lovely career that I enjoy enough to happily do it well everyday, but that is not a surrogate for my whole life, passion and personality. Still get to enjoy music and swimming as recreation and hobbies.

[–] Harbinger01173430@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Yes. Work is that useless investment of time.

[–] Karyoplasma@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Just about everything I've ever done.

[–] merari42@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yay, nihilism!

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[–] Scrof@sopuli.xyz 6 points 7 months ago

School was a monumental waste of a childhood. Then unis. Now work. It all sucks.

[–] CaptPretentious@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Some friendships be like that. Usually it's the case of me going out of if my way to help... Only for then to purposefully make terrible life choices.

Examples,

He was just out of jail and wanted to get on track. I got him a place to stay, a job, I even personally moved him (like drive, picked up his stuff), and got him an interview with the college. The choice, fuck his perole! Drinking, meth, and knowingly getting a warrant for arrest (to impress the ladies... And it worked) was way better.

The list for her, would be too much as we knew each other for like 28(?) years. She's a mom of a disabled teenage daughter. She thought it was a great idea to get into a relationship with someone she knew was a convicted child predator. I just cannot abide. (I called CPS)

[–] morphballganon@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Predictor? Predator?

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[–] troglodytis@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago

Looks at everything. Looks at the sun expanding. Looks back at everything.

Yes, I do believe so

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 6 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sanding a corner.

[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Scrapers. Your welcome.

[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago

Oh totally. I was going for the pun. “Only to feel that it’s pointless…” womp womp

[–] Syn_Attck@lemmy.today 5 points 7 months ago

Every amphetamine user reading this post: fidgets nervously in chair

[–] savvywolf@pawb.social 4 points 7 months ago

Yes.

My anxiety beast says hi.

[–] Sam_Bass@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago

Nope. I usually drop it well before that. Then go back to it for a few minutes or a day. Then drop it again. Rinse and repeat

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Fitting in society. I might as well say society doesn't fit in with me.

[–] dustyData@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

How did that one go? Being well adjusted to an ill society is not a good thing.

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[–] geoffreyconley@lemmy.world 4 points 7 months ago

Absolutely every day... Sadly. Maybe it's just my anxiety and ADHD. But yes.

[–] krishnamurti@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

Oh ya know, just being alive

[–] JigglySackles@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

Almost every job I had prior to realizing I need a work life balance.

[–] doublejay1999@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Nothing is pointless. Everything is temporary.

[–] SpaceNoodle@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

Everything is pointless, everything is temporary.

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