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Great view and great body (especially great bush :p)

Why no lube ? Anal is so great, why make it hurt ? ;)

Just a small but important clarification from a biologist : the penis is no more a clitoral variant than the clitoris is a penis variant. As you say, both come from the same precursor embryological cells, and those cells are neither clitoral nor penile, just genital precursors. This is important because it means that no biological sex is the default, and as such no bio sex is "just a variant of the other".

Also, having in mind that precursor cells are not of any sex is a better and more rigorous mindset to understand cases of abnormal developments leading to biological anomalies such as so-called intersex presentations. These people are not "derived" from any "true" sex, their cells just took another path during development.

Anyways, thanks for this otherwise very fine post, clitoral anatomy, and more generally biological female anatomy is horribly understudied, though this tendency is beginning to correct (slowly)

Actually, the "ovulation is the higher libido time" has been, if not disproved, at least contested by large scale studies and surveys. The reality is that hormones and cycles affect each individual differently, and in some cases, more women declared feeling higher level of arousal during periods than during ovulation.

Other than that, the rest of the statement stands ! Of course, while the post does not advocate for it, we emphasize that unprotected sex during period protects from pregnancy but not STDs, and as such should only be practiced with trusted and tested partners.

And also, we advise specialised menstrual cups to make sex during periods easier :)

That seems interesting, we sent you a private message to discuss further :)

We forgot to add, but the simple fact that you took time to question your feelings, and ask questions here, already shows a very positive attitude towards sexual exploration that will no doubt serve you well with any future partners of any gender :)

As we said, everyone is different and enjoys different things, we're just giving you tips based on biological data and stats as well as our personal experiences, so you have a base understanding of what might be the most probable to work, but of course there is no universal answer !

Just a few precisions ! Don't stress it out :) while you may have felt more relaxed in the morning (that's great !), it was only the second time, so even then you're still in discovery and (implicitly) stressful mindset.

Even if your partner loves penetration and is into it, chances are that she will not come solely from it. We happen to both have backgrounds in bio sciences, and the stats are clear : the vast majority of women are biologically unable to come from only penetration.

As we said, clitoral stimulation before, during, and after penetration will put both of you in a better mood both mentally and physically. Again, try not to take such a stressful approach, "it took so much time", pleasure is not compatible with pressure, quite the contrary. Take your time, learn, talk and frequently ask what you can do to make your partner enjoy herself to the fullest ! Don't be afraid to bring toys into the mix, everybody likes different things, and some form of toys (like womanizers) provide a kind of stimulation that is not really available by other means but can work really well !

Anyways, we'll conclude like earlier, have fun, and talk with each other as much as possible :)

Hey ! Congrats on reaching this milestone ! Here are our 2 cents on your questions.

Pleasure, especially sexual, is intensely psychological. First times are rarely optimal mentally, with performance anxiety and all around thinking going to the max. You will enjoy it more by letting go and relaxing, the both of you. This should come naturally as you both go and learn what you like and how to handle sex.

Now, this isn't to say there is nothing to do on the physical side of things ! Contrary to popular belief, most pleasure is not "naturally there", but learnt. Of course some areas are naturally more prone to feel it, but only by stimulation and **repetition ** does the true potential arise. Regarding the dick particularly, people with them tend to masturbate more often, and more forcefully, so when then meet a natural orifice, it can feel "lacking", because it feels less intense from the get go. You have to learn to feel softer stimulation again, that's all ! Also, it will help if the vagina-having partner cums before penetration (clitoral stimulation should be your go to), both for their pleasure, and for yours, because the perineum and other muscles in the area will be contracted, leading to a tighter feel. Playing with the clit while ongoing penetration should also help :)

Just a note, someone suggested backdoor for more intense feeling. This is, in our experience (MF couple), not true. A successful anal penetration (meaning one that is prepared and does not hurt at all ) is a great experience for all involved, but not more intense, just different. Actually, it may exacerbate your problem, because a relaxed ass will feel quite tight on entry, but very lax after that, while a contracted vagina will feel tight all along :)

Anyway, please have fun, explore, and most importantly, communicate with your partner(s), always !

Yup, you have no way to know if the feeling you have now is intact or impaired in any way relative to biological normality.

We said it again in our other comment, but advocating in favor of non consensual mutilation (most often on children too) because of (perceived) cultural benefits is absolutely crazy.

Are you aware of how insane that sounds to someone not fully brainwashed ? That is not a "complicated state of mind" or complicated in any way, this is a physical mutilation, often done barbarously without anesthesia or proper medical attention, on an unwilling newborn or child, with the potential for serious injuries, medical complications, and irreversible impairments to social and sexual life and wellness.

Circumcision should only be done in medical necessity, when a phimosis is present and does not go away at puberty. When possible, foreskin should be kept as much as possible, because contact with clothes can lead to keratinisation and partial loss of feeling