As a parent, I can say with confidence it doesn’t have to be that bleak. My wife and I work 4 days a week and don’t own a car. Our kid’s school is nearby, so we don’t spend a lot of time travelling, and we both work from home a fair amount. We get to spend plenty of time with each other as a family and we’re certainly not working only for the sake of it.

That said, we are in the Netherlands, so depending on where you live things may be harder or even easier. In general I would say it is good to think about the kind of life you want to live, and the choice where you raise kids is an important one in that.

I’m agreeing with you, but I don’t think the phrases have to be condescending, smug or detached?

They surely point to a disagreement, but can’t they be used from such a position in a genuine capacity without implying the person is being condescending or smug about it?

Of course it’s easy to see how when those things are said to you, they may be perceived as smug or condescending, because the other person doesn’t want to agree with you. But that doesn’t necessarily make them so.

Not a native English speaker though, so genuinely curious about the nuances here.

I see this argument repeated here every now and then, but it’s not true: https://aoav.org.uk/2020/the-effects-of-strategic-bombing-in-wwii-on-german-morale/

To summarise: Bombing had a profound effect on depressing morale through inducing defeatism, fear and apathy. Bombing did not harden popular resolve against the US. The hate and anger it aroused was directed against the Nazi regime, not the Allies.

I think it’s the latter. I once had to take care of a sick friend who was pretty much puking her guts out. Her moans sounded arousing. Of course she wasn’t intentionally doing that, it’s just our own male brains playing tricks on us.

In fairness, this also happens to me when I write the bash script myself 😂

So far, it doesn’t seem that they have broken any laws or whatever, that would cause the system to reject their workings.

They are breaking laws, including the constitution. The courts are trying to reject it, but have no method to enforce their rulings when the executive branch willingly ignores them and even explicitly lies the blame with the courts for trying to protect the system.

https://www.npr.org/2025/02/12/nx-s1-5294666/trump-white-house-constitutional-crisis-judges

Opinionated summary: Developers saw REST, picked the good parts and ignored the rest (no pun intended). They still called it REST, for lack of a better word, even though things like HATEOAS were overkill for most of the applications.

No, OP asked for a black and white winner. I was elaborating because I don’t think it’s that black and white, but if you want a singular answer I think it should be clear: Rust.

Please, please make a blog and spew your tirades there 😂

That was a super interesting and informative read! Exactly what I was hoping to find when I posted this, thanks!

Only if your definition of soundness includes that leaks can never occur, which is not how Rust generally defines soundness. I think most Rust users know that the language doesn’t prevent leaks at this point.

Great stuff! Good to see that a few of those changes wouldn’t apply to just the Rust compiler, but other Rust programs as well.