I think you’re hitting some good points, but the thing we need to teach these boys is that they shouldn’t be looking towards society for rewards. Society’s rewards have become a gamified rat race, so the way out is men to look inward. Not gonna lie though, that’s easier said than done…
I recently wrote a post too that touches on this topic: https://philosophyofbalance.com/blog/the-emancipation-of-men/
Ah yes, because we should condemn people over a statistic, even when the things they do may actually warrant some praise.