I want to lose my virginity to a long term partner. I maybe attracted to him but i am not going to lose it in a one night stand

Even if it doesn’t last, i would prefer it over losing it in a one night stand. Hope that helps

I understand

Makes sense. I’ll try to communicate it with him respectfully

He's paying for every date even when I offer to split. I even mentioned I am not looking for dating in my current city because I am moving, but he still asked me out on another and also asked about the places I would like to go, he would take me.

If he's not looking for a romantic partner, which I mentioned in the post he's not. Why would he bother doing all this? Just for a friend?

Why would I lie? I have no benefit in portraying Japanese men as good fathers lol. I just told you what I noticed

I have clearly mentioned in the post that I don't want to sleep with him, I am a virgin and want to save my first time for a long term relationship

Thank you very much! He never asked me to go on a trip with him and honestly I would say no if he did. He offered to pay but I offered to split the bill. When he refused, I bought dessert for both of us, I hope that made it atleast subtle that I am not trying to use him for his money, in any way

So should I just ask him directly that why is he asking me to hangout with him one on one? What are his intentions? Will he not be offended?

I totally understand your point!! But in the past, it has happened quite often with my Japanese friends that they assumed I am giving them hint that I want to sleep with them, only because I gave them a goodbye hug. All of these guys were closer to my age. But I do that to all of my friends from every nationality regardless of gender. I stopped doing that with any japanese friends tho, including this guy, I just shaked his hand and said goodbye.

I work at a daycare, part time and talk with parents regularly about their child’s well being. The fathers are as aware about what’s going on with their children as the mother

What is the relation between him being Japanese and spending time with his kids lol? I see Japanese men being very dedicated fathers, making sure to spend time with their kids and get involved in their life.

And 13 years age difference is massive for any type of relationship, it’s transcending generations technically