cyngi

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[–] cyngi@midwest.social 4 points 1 week ago

Low libido and that lack of stimulation was my MAIN point of contention with sertraline. It modified my sex life to the point where I had to abstain from too much activity and focus the build up to even bring on some form of climax.

For me, it didn't abate so much as I got used to it and reduced sexual activity to make each instance of it feel better.

Hope this helps.

[–] cyngi@midwest.social 5 points 5 months ago

I agree with this advice to a point. For me, it is a 50/50 decision. Fudging dice and cheating is part of dming to me, but it is a decision of when, where, and why. Crushing your players under under a severe string of bad luck can kill the game, but so can everything going their way. The point to me is to make the game compelling rather than a power trip, even if I am ultimately on my players' side

[–] cyngi@midwest.social 52 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (2 children)

So look, your back does not look dissimilar to my CIS wife's back, and while she is not a powerlifter we do both actively strength train 3 days a week. Your dysphoria is totally valid, but all I saw when you shared was a woman's muscled back. They'll probably go as you keep going on HRT, but it's worth keeping in mind the lens you're seeing your back in doesn't necessarily reflect how you come across.

[–] cyngi@midwest.social 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

The conceit you exude is thick, brother. I'll try not to talk longer on this, because I agree with you on the point that we won't agree.

Tribalism is something that I do not want to participate in. I want to participate in giving a chance to those who present a potential goodness. That said, I do not believe in mindless trust. Let Mamdani try, and see what he can do, but do NOT believe the smokescreen the establishment kicks up against anybody who might go against the grain of the elite. Sure, he could have already sold out. Or, he could be playing smarter and trying not to nuke his chances to change things before they are presented.

The point is to let him get into office and observe what he does rather than speculate on maneuvres before he can even affect change.

[–] cyngi@midwest.social 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (3 children)

Don't give me that wide brush bullshit. Quiet submittal is not what I mean, and to stop giving one a chance is to completely torch the idea of shared humanity. The idea that Mamdani 'sold out' before he has even had an opportunity to disappoint is the height of defeatism, and to tar those who attempt to lead with the feathers of the evil say anything politician is an exercise in pre-emptive concession.

Reality is more nuanced than than quoting historical figures from a different time and social situation. Spreading the message you've spread, we may as well never trust anybody ever again who tries to help and captures hearts and minds.

History doesn't repeat, it rhymes, but we don't have to feel stuck in the same verse.

[–] cyngi@midwest.social 2 points 8 months ago (5 children)

He ain't even mayor yet and this fearmongering bs is in the works. You know They are scared.

[–] cyngi@midwest.social 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Just be cause she doesn't seem to have a problem being out to everyone doesn't mean she doesn't or didn't. It is important to keep in mind there could have been struggles you are completely unaware of. And, if perhaps there were not, that only means that your situation is slightly different. Coming out like this is your choice, but pre-framing an interaction can help a final push for you to reveal what is hard. This kind of strategy has at least helped me make a hard admission in the past.

What I mean is to try to schedule a 'conversation.' Let her know that it is a serious subject matter, but be sure to clarify it is not a negative subject. It is something you want to discuss, and you would appreciate her time and attention.

[–] cyngi@midwest.social 2 points 10 months ago

Communication is the most important thing here. The point about you feeling it better if she sees you as a man is a sticky one, but her doing that if that is how you wish to present is a signal of respect for your wishes in the relationship. Her only wanting to do one thing and not taking an interest in what you like is also something you really need to talk to her about. Make it clear what you want, and how you feel about feeling like you are the only one taking interest in doing what she wants.

Really, talking is how you resolve this. But be prepared for it not to go how you expect or something feasibly not being workable. Keep yourself first and make a judgment call on how much you are willing to put up with. People can change, but it takes genuine desire, deep effort, and backsliding and regression can happen.

[–] cyngi@midwest.social 8 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (2 children)

Shitty property planning with no off-street parking results in people needing to park on the street in a car centric city where you need a car to function.

Not city/property planning's fault tho, it's the people with no choice but to park on the street that are the problem!

/s

Ffs, sure there is the case of some dick parking outside your home, but the real problem is with city and property planning. Not the fault of individial owners by and large.

[–] cyngi@midwest.social -1 points 11 months ago (2 children)

Love the skirt!

And the tits :D

[–] cyngi@midwest.social 18 points 1 year ago

You seem deeply affected by them caring now and not before. Are you worried they will convince him? If not then they will eventually see it worked itself out and stop caring. If not, well they aren't involved in your relationship so what do they matter? Not everybody will like you, it's wasted energy to try and make that the goal.

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