grittycat

I'm unsure about the whether airvpn is owned by fascists but it seems to fit the rest of your criteria and at least on paper is italian

i started using CWA and it has been fantastic. it was the best project for my purposes among the ones i tried (calibre-web, kavita, booklore). Booklore was pretty but not really stable imo

i was also going to suggest opencloud as an option - i'm looking to move my setup from nextcloud to opencloud when i have the time to migrate