Well, teenage me would have said the answer is “stupid”.

Then I grew up and realized that I was full of myself and everyone isn’t stupid.

Then the last 10 or so years happened and I now I sorta think teenage me was onto something there.

No.

All of the “rules” you’re describing are effectively just gaslighting people who have been bullied into thinking they asked for it. It takes so little effort not to be a dick to people. It’s like the lowest effort thing I can think of.

Asking questions is fine; asking without doing prior research is fine too. Online bullies want others to think you need to have a PhD thesis on the topic before you’re allowed to ask a question and that mindset is ridiculous.

Ask your questions @alina@lemmy.world, don’t apologize for it, and just ignore the assholes. It’s totally fine to look for a human connection first, you don’t need that doctorate beforehand.

The truth is in there.