@Lemmeenym as someone in both categories, I think it matters less when you become disabled and more when you accept it. The disabilities I gained over time have been much easier for me to accept and accommodate because I was already disabled, but the years spent not knowing I was disabled at birth and trying to assimilate in abled society were hell. The actual disabilities would have been fine had I known and been accommodated, just like they're fine now
@Lemmeenym as someone in both categories, I think it matters less when you become disabled and more when you accept it. The disabilities I gained over time have been much easier for me to accept and accommodate because I was already disabled, but the years spent not knowing I was disabled at birth and trying to assimilate in abled society were hell. The actual disabilities would have been fine had I known and been accommodated, just like they're fine now