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Be open and curious, don't make stuff complicated, even if it seems to be complicated to you. Take challenges step by step. Don't treat people differently for who they are. Show them vulnerability and how to come back from being hurt.

You always teach by example so if you can show them an open mind, they will learn that the world doesn't generally harm you.

It's true that life sometimes will, but the only way to live life to its fullest also includes getting hurt and being sad and finding the trust to get back out there anyway to do that thing you need to do.

I never understood the chives in that "recipe".

Do they add anything?

I've been wondering this for a long long time. Thank you for doing the testing!

Trading my "people always want to tell me what went wrong in their life"-superpower for excellent executive function. Pretty please.

4&5 Although I'm wondering if 1 is "The first partner you find perfect" or "The first perfect partner to ever exist in general" ...

Joined my guild. Most expressive person I ever met, 10/10 over the top, so I dealt with that myself. Turns out I like very cheesy, took me years to get used though.

If I had kids, I would take them seriously. Just because they're kids doesn't mean they don't know how they feel or what they need.

It may not be possible to avoid trauma, but it's absolutely possible to teach people about safe and less safe coping mechanisms for their trauma. This one is decidedly less safe.

Wtf they should be writing this stuff into the sky and spamming the net with ads for it.

My sincerest thank you for the post. Maybe Me-Time for women in the future won't mean "I finally got time to do the Kegels" ...

It is to a certain degree. You don't bring your love for milk shakes to your "business attire only" office job. You may love Hentai, but you're not telling the person next to you during an opera visit. These are aspects of you that don't match the occasion, so you skip that. Most people do this naturally, they don't spend much thought on it.

Then there's "masking" as used by neurodivergent people. That's an entirely different matter. More info an that is over at neurodivergentinsights.

You're not dangerous, so no you'd not be locked up. What you need is decent boundaries, not a response.

You're entirely separate from your mom. It's unlikely that there's a chip, so the question is how you can enforce that separation in a sustainable (for you) way. A simple "I don't agree" would probably help you feel less submissive without giving her grounds for more debate.

Guilt is a part of depression, it's built right into how you stay passive and sad. But you're not guilty, you're just struggling and that is - ask anyone except maybe your mom - really just part of the human condition. 90% of western adults have a depressive episode at least once in their life (stats by a therapist I used to go to), so you're in good company.

In addition ask yourself this: If you had kids, would you think they owed you in return for your support? As a parent it's something I feel you opt into when you decide to make babies. You don't just pop them out and then make demands for the years you had to change diapers or drive them to school.

What your mom thinks or not ultimately hasn't more or less value than your own thoughts and opinions. Let it go and focus on you and how you can limit your exposure to her opinions.

Hey friend, this has your email, name and picture in the images. You wanna set this to private.

Best of luck in your search!

It looks to me like they're trying to make the best out of a bad situation. There's more tariff now on EU goods, but it may keep the US involved in Ukraine while the concessions made on the EU side aren't massive in the grand scheme of things.

At the same time this deal says to everyone who's looking "We try, despite our differences", which makes it rather difficult to paint the EU as the bad guy if he reconsiders.

At the end of the day what the EU wants to be internationally is a reliable partner. That's what trust is built on.