Cross-posted from "What do I do?" by @relation_anon4238@thelemmy.club in !lesbians@lemmy.blahaj.zone

So my girlfriend "Lily" hasn't texted me in over a week. I can tell she is alright and receiving my messages, as it says she has read them, but she won't respond, even if I send something romantic like "I love you" or just say something like "let me know when you can hang out".

Lily is usually busy and will text me "Sorry can't talk right now" and that will be the end of our conversation. My friends, however, said that this is suspicious and means she doesn't WANT to talk because if she couldn't talk right NOW she would at least answer later instead of just reading it. ' I have no idea, it's been a week and I haven't heard from her.

So, I just broke up with my ex as well, as she was using me. She found out I was now dating one of my good friends, and she's calling me a slut for moving on.

Even if the girl who bullied me in high school blamed me, got her friends to threaten me, etc. she still seemed to enjoy my company and I was always the first person she turned to when bad things happened.

One of my abusers has aggressive parents who are very strict and wake them up at 4 a.m. every day, and neither of them have very many friends nor boyfriends which they desperately want and are lonely. Should I feel bad despite how they treated me?

Okay, so first off, I wanna say that I'm in a lovely relationship with "Jess" and have been for a few days. Before I dated my friend and now girlfriend Jess, though, was my ex that I posted about around 2 weeks ago: Evangelina.

Evangelina and I were going great, until she told me she needed me for something. I asked what she needed me for, and she said she was horny.

I didn't know what to do, so I sent photos of my face and said "Here you go," but she asked for "different photos".

When I refused to give them to her because we'd only been dating for a few days and I'd been sexually harassed before, she said "It's fine, I get it." But then she blocked me??

Seriously, Reddit has banned me several times for "breaking rules" but never tells me exactly what I did to deserve the ban, whereas I see that Lemmy will tell you in the modlog what you did.

cross-posted from: https://thelemmy.club/post/34281439

A few months prior, I had broken up with David. My relationship with him prompted me to later realize I was going through comphet, and was actually into women, not straight like I once thought.

I was looking for a girlfriend after a few months of healing and being single, and my acquaintance/friend Michael, who is a few years older than me, introduced me to Kay/K.

"I think you'll like her," he said.

Keep in mind that Kay was not yet out to Michael as nonbinary with they/them pronouns, but I indeed asked them for their pronouns so I didn't misgender anyway. That's why Michael used she/her and thought Kay was a girl.

Kay wanted to be in a sort of "talking stage" after a while, where we weren't quite friends but we certainly weren't dating.

Here's where I wonder: Kay could imagine romantic stuff with me, such as holding hands and kissing, and going on dates and all that stuff, yet they didn't want me to do that with them nor did they want to initiate that with me. They said they had a crush on me, too, as did I for them.

We did things they were okay with, such as saying "I love you" and flirting, but that was it.

They said we were just hanging out and asked me could we not make it a date for now. They also got annoyed at me for asking if we could hold hands one day and said not now but maybe in the future.

They eventually told me they were traumatized by dating, which I respect, and weren't ready for a girlfriend nor were they ready for commitment.

So, this makes me wonder, did Kay like me romantically or did they just see me as sort of a friend? They were traumatized either way, which definitely could influence it, but yeah. I do wonder, from your guys' perspective as an outsider.

My school had Spanish, French, or German.

My online friend liked me and I have had multiple crushes at once so I liked her back. We're dating now, yayyy!!!

I just asked my online crush if she wanted to date when we got to know each other more and at first she said no because I was too heavy for her (160 lbs, she is 90, she doesn't want much of a weight difference and doesn't like chubby x skinny). Next, she kept playfully teasing me about my crush on her after I confessed and said "Oh, you really want me?" and then said she would think about dating me if I really did like her. My friends all say that's a definite no and that she won't say yes and all that...