this post was submitted on 23 Jul 2024
19 points (95.2% liked)

Melbourne

1870 readers
52 users here now

This community is a place created for the people of Melbourne and Victoria. We are a positive, welcoming and inclusive community. We might not agree about everything, but we always strive to stay civil and respectful.

The focus of our discussions is based around things that affect Victoria, but we are also free to discuss our local perspective on wider issues. Or head to the regular Daily Random Discussion thread to talk about anything.

Full Community Guidelines

Ongoing discussions, FAQs & Resources (still under construction)

Adoption Certificate for Nellie, the Daily Thread numbat (with thanks to @Catfish)

Feedback & Suggestions

founded 1 year ago
MODERATORS
 

There wasn't one yet.

you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
[–] Baku@aussie.zone 9 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Today marks my 1 year anniversary of living in lead tenant. It sure feels like it's been longer than a year.

It's an odd feeling. Overall, my life is definitely better now than it was this time 1 year and 6 months ago, but with everything that's happened recently, it's difficult to say that I'm still happy here. It's difficult to think back on how good, and how happy I was a month after moving in to now when I wake up in a panic at 2 in the morning thinking I've heard something, and barricade my door at night time.

[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 14 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Baku, I think I speak for a lot us when I say how impressed I am with your maturity and common sense. Things have been hard for you recently, and this will take some time to adjust to. Waking up at 2 am thinking we've heard something happens to us all, I think though for most of us its just possums or rats or a piece of household equipment falling over (thank you cats). You are being exceptionally mature about this, especially since the threat is probably still quite real.

[–] Baku@aussie.zone 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Thank you TW. The nosies thing has happened before, but it's affecting me a lot more now because I'm pretty sure it's all in my head

[–] Thornburywitch@aussie.zone 7 points 4 months ago

The real problem is that one can't just assume that 'its all in my head' cos when you do that - its real. Heightened alertness is a known side effect of trauma - and I consider the ex-housemate as trauma on legs. Be gentle with yourself - the hyperalertness will dissipate over time. Sucks to go through it though.

[–] Seagoon_@aussie.zone 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

so many many hugs

the effects of loss of peace of mind is not to be under estimated

[–] Baku@aussie.zone 2 points 4 months ago

Thanks Goonsy. I've been through this all before at the last place, multiple times, so it makes it a little easier to know what to do, but it never gets any easier to cope with