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I hate how every possible facial expression a black woman can make is mistook for aggression and "attitude" (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 days ago by TokenEffort@sh.itjust.works to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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Straight face only means I want to fight. Any kind of smiling is passive aggressive. Looking sad means I want to fight. And of course looking angry means I'm angry with you and specifically you and nothing else. The only way to Fix My Face is to just hide it entirely.

I really hate my ugly ass face for all other reasons, but being unable to order food in person without a cashier thinking I'm angry and willing to fight over the pettiest thing possible is the last straw.

I can't wait until I don't need to work anymore and I can just shut myself away from society and be a white vtuber or something. If I really want fast food then I'll do no contact delivery so the deliverer doesn't assume I'm angry at them for literally doing their job.

Can't even apologize for bumping into someone without them assuming I'm angry that they're in my very important way. Whoops, sorry, excuse me, doesn't matter what I said, it's passive aggressive and I want to fight.

Can't say anything is fine or okay, can't thank anyone, can't wish them a nice day, can't greet them, can't say anything without it being taken aggressively. And not saying anything at all is silent treatment, or passive aggression.

Can't thank anyone for a gift. Every holiday, I was "ungrateful" for everything. My smile was fake and the thank you was sarcastic. I hate holidays, birthdays, and gifts for that reason.

So many black women glorify this as "culture". I might as well be the only black woman who isn't petty, passive aggressive, or overly willing to fight someone. I really wish I had just died at birth since clearly something is wrong with me.

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[–] RedditWanderer@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

You can do all those things, and even in this racists world there are plenty of other people who don't treat you like that. It's not your face, it's systemic racism. They say the same thing about other groups they don't like.

This sounds like a select group (that you may be around often). Most people give zero shits about your face and have their own problems to think about, but some work really hard at making it seem like it's everywhere.

Edit: I expected this to be unpopular, my point mostly being

Can't thank anyone for a gift. Every holiday, I was "ungrateful" for everything.

Given this 100% rate of being "bitch face" with no nuance, you have to leave room for the fact you might have been wrong at least once. "Bitch face" is a thing and it's not just pointed at black people (or black women). They want you to feel like that though.

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