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How can I get better at talking? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 day ago by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I don't know if anyone else has this problem but I have a really pacific issue. In general just I suck at talking. I find it hard to put my thoughts to words, I never know what words to use and I never know what to say.

I talk like xQc irl and the act of using words to hard I'm always slurring them out even tho I try not to and I have a stutter and a slip so saying thing is very hard.

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[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 2 points 17 hours ago

As others have suggested, professional help would probably be the best way to go about it.

Otherwise, here are my suggestions as a non-professional:

Record yourself and listen to yourself speak, maybe even naturally (maybe on the phone?). Listen for the mistakes you're making so that you can focus on correcting them.
Slow down between words and sentences.
Plan out your sentences before you start them.
Be okay with using filled pauses. You don't need ums and uhs, but things like "Well...". Even something like "Let me think about that for a moment" is okay in certain settings.
Look up advice for professional speaking. Advice for live streamers can be great to apply to your situation.