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[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 35 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Yeah nothing to be proud of but I can't discount how powerful this one is, now that I'm "woke" to it.

Like I have worked for people for years and just not known they were racist or sexist, only for them to let it slip. And then you see behind the mask.

Realising why there are no people of colour in my office, or women with any kind of power. Realising I would not have this job if I was not a white man.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 28 points 1 week ago (2 children)

As a queer person, it feels even weirder. Like I'm a spy and my cover could be blown at any moment.

[–] cmbabul@lemmy.world 23 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Even as a straight I kinda feel that way sometimes, all theses assholes keep telling on themselves to me. It’s also depressing how many of them there are

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

The number of times I've been "accused" of being gay just because I don't have a problem with homo couples. Sometime in the 200Xs I stopped correcting people and went with "so what if I am gay" which added a real satisfying record scratch moment to arguments.

Let them believe I'm gay if they want, it's none of their fucking business, and they should be aware there are queer folk in stealth mode literally in every aspect of their lives.

[–] cmbabul@lemmy.world 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I also like to act like I have no clue what the punchline of the racist\sexist\homophobic\hateful joke they are making is, having them explain it out loud gets em really awkward

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 10 points 1 week ago

Yes! Weaponized naivety is a powerful tool.

[–] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I feel that. I've got a very serious redneck thing going on. I hunt, fish, dress like I just got off work at the ranch (that's true sometimes), and raise a lot of hell. I know why they think I'm one of them. It's depressing some days because it's almost like people can't wait to say fucked up shit as soon as they meet me.

[–] skulblaka@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Never underestimate the power of a white man saying "that's some fucked up shit bro" to another white man

[–] TexasDrunk@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago

I use that power. I say things ranging from "Dude, that's not ok" to "Are you fucking stupid or something?" if I'm looking to get their attention.

I've also pulled out "You know my cousin is black, right?" (true statement) and "That's my sister" (untrue statement). When you make it personal they get real uncomfortable and start apologizing.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 4 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Welcome to being “high functioning” autistic, which is basically an undercover assignment from birth where if you slip up suddenly you have enemies.

Nobody, literally zero people, will acknowledge treating autistic people differently but holy shit.

[–] Kolanaki@yiffit.net 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I've never felt like someone might kill me if they learn I am on the spectrum. I have felt that way if they found out I fuck dudes.

[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 6 days ago

Actively kill me? No. But take away my ability to earn money? Yes. Fortunately our society has safety nets for people who are expunged from groups, so in our civilization it’s not killing to kick someone out of the group.