Would you proudly tell the women and enbies in your life about the comment on a woman's body you left on the internet? And ultimately even if, in the context of a friendship, and the folks you associate with, this would be taken well, don't you think it's worth listening when people say you're being creepy and off putting?

[–] Machinist@lemmy.world 0 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I mean, I still totally probably would.

Back in my drinking days, I definitely would have taken her home at last call.

I didn't comment about her body in that comment.

Anyhow, with caveats, I would totally make that comment in front of the right crowd. I've been to a lot of kink parties and drag shows. Cis-het peeps don't have a monopoly on catty coments.

If someone wears a shirt with a sexual statement on it, then others will make sexual statements about them.

I didn't even think about the Luigi/Italian thing until I read it in a comment. To me, that shirt said that she has sex better than people who aren't Italian.

I did make a deleted comment referring to her Botox or plastic surgery and that I considered it a red flag. I find uncanny valley plastic surgery profoundly unattractive. I don't remember exactly what I said. It was flippant and arguably objectification.

So, I misread the room and my joke was poorly received. I haven't read the rules for shitposting or whatever and would not be surprised if I violated a rule.

From my view, the shirt with a funny sexual statement invites other sexual statements. I think that anyone that denies that the slogan is a double entendre is naive at best. The level of outrage amusing.

[–] bishbosh@lemm.ee 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

What gross things to say.

I didn’t comment about her body in that comment.

Ah so when you replied to someone commenting on her body and face saying that you would "still" have sex with her after drinking, that was a comment on her deep and rich personality? Just because you didn't literally mention her body in it doesn't make the comment not about her body, and I think you know that.

with caveats ... in front of the right crowd.

Maybe a public forum with a person you don't know is not the right place to make those.

I’ve been to a lot of kink parties and drag shows.

No one is impressed by "I have a black friend", stop using is as justification.

Cis-het peeps don’t have a monopoly on catty coments.

No one said they did, and if you want to get into the weeds of this, folks that are also subjugated under patriarchy share a kinship and an understanding of the contexts and ways 'catty' comments should be made. Maybe going to a couple drag shows doesn't give you the proper context to understand what justifies a 'catty' comment. Maybe a random internet commenter saying they "still would" doesn't come off as a clever fun sassy razzing all the drag queens do. Maybe instead it sounds like basement dweller saying "she's not hot like the chicks I jerk off to, but I guess I would still fuck her".

I did make a deleted comment referring to her Botox or plastic surgery and that I considered it a red flag. I find uncanny valley plastic surgery profoundly unattractive. I don’t remember exactly what I said. It was flippant and arguably objectification.

Wow, I am so proud of you for realizing how wildly disgusting this comment is before leaving it up for too long. I would suggest you grow as a person and have that realization when you think it, and guide yourself away from being a creep.

From my view, the shirt with a funny sexual statement invites other sexual statements.

It doesn't. Stop.

[–] spujb@lemmy.cafe 5 points 1 week ago

“if i was at a kink party or drag show” ITS A SILLY MEME SUBCOMM NOT A BURLESQUE SHOW FUNK OFF 😭

call me insane, but i want to be able to click on a silly image of a niche micro celebrity i love for her persona doing an incredibly tame expression of her sexuality and not be subjected to 6+ comments about how you “totally would” and “boobs lol” comments. go repost to r/celebsnsfw or wherever and make those comments in that context if you absolutely can’t keep it in your pants.

thanks for your comment ❤️