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So to make it clear while im still a guy but I've been feeling like there is a lesser but present amount of girl in me. I am currently using both he him and she her I'm confused. Like I'm a boy but I'm also kinda girl idk

I know I haven't been posting here much but I'd like an answer. If anyone wants to use my posts and stuff I have a lot of my questioning on record in my masto

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[–] sleepybisexual@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago (3 children)

What is the difference between demiboy and bigender. I don't know if I'm 100% boy and 100 girl or something's like 100 boy 25 girl. I knwo that doesn't add up

[–] chloyster@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

As far as I am aware, they are close to the same thing. The demi people I have known often do align with one of the genders more. Demigirl friend I have identifies more fem but not all the way

[–] Lumo@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm not the most knowledgable on this, so take what I say with a grain of salt.

What should be the most important is how you yourself feel, and then labels should come with that, and not the other way around: you shouldn't "choose" to identify as demiboy, and then try to change how you act and behave to try and match what's on the label.

The fun in labels and the such is that you can interpret them as you want (for yourself)! You can say you identify as demiboy and mean with that 100 boy, 50 girl or 100 boy, 23 girl or even 100 boy, 75 girl and none of those are more correct or a better fit to the demiboy label: it all comes down to what you decide "demiboy" means to you (also this applies to any other gender you might identify as, I'm just picking demiboy as an example as it's a bit more specific).

Also, you can always change your mind after choosing a label, it isn't set in stone so another option you have is to just pick one and roll with it, find out how it feels and how YOU feel about it, and if you don't like it then pick something else and try that!

I hope this makes some sense and is maybe helpful. Good luck on your discovery journey !

[–] sleepybisexual@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

I think I'm a demiboy. I could just be nb I don't know. My gender is slightly more guy bit there is a good amount of girl too. I mostly present as masc but I am becoming more fem and would like to present as fem. I have no clue what me gender is lol maybe im a demiboy (likely) bigender i have no clue lol.Thank you for the encouragement!

[–] Gaywallet@beehaw.org 1 points 1 year ago

What is the difference between demiboy and bigender

Arguably similar to the difference between bisexual and pansexual - largely overlapping labels for which the choice really has to do with your own personal preference. So long as you have an idea of the realm in which you live (the feeling, not the label), choosing a label should just be whichever you vibe more with or feel describes you better, OR simply just adopt all the labels.