Again, totally irrelevant.

The argument made here is that a small subset of a group is claiming the nomenclature for the entire group for themselves, and that that is unjustified.

It'd be like trans women demanding to be called women (fair) but also requiring that other women no longer refer to themselves as women (unfair). Your metaphors completely omit the second part: the claiming of exclusivity of the name.

It's like Germans calling themselves Europeans, but simultaneously demanding the French don't do so. Don't expect them to honour that request.