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Thought I might get more support here, IDEK I guess I’m learning to be ok with it for him?? (piefed.social)
submitted 4 months ago by wendyz@piefed.social to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world
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My (22F) boyfriend Will (23NB/M) only spends time with his other partner Dave (26M) and only mentions him. It’s always “My boyfriend Dave this” “My boyfriend Dave that” or “I can’t wait to see my boyfriend!” “I miss my boyfriend!” “I’m sad I lost my phone so I can’t text my boyfriend!” (today)

Like, it’s so confusing because WHAT ABOUT ME? I’m right there. And he shows guilt a few times and apologizes but keeps doing it. And he never worries about texting me. In fact, he always leaves me on read and doesn’t bother to text back because mainly he’s calling Dave!!!

And I have Aiko (23F), my fiancée, and I love her to death, but I don’t know why I’m so jealous and hung up over this guy!! I just wish he treated me how I treated him and how Aiko and I treat each other. I never tell Aiko this stuff because I don’t wanna make her jealous so I only spend time with her and talk to her about our interests, not him or his interests.

But seriously, and whenever there’s an example of a relationship, he never says “I would never do that to Wendy”, it’s always “I would never do that to Dave” when I hear it. I’m just an afterthought.

But you know what? I’m obviously a sidepiece, and he’s romantic sometimes when we see each other and touchy with me, so maybe he loves me more than I think and I’m just overreacting because I’m such a good person. Like, the queen of good people. So I will likely stay with him and just suck it up.

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[–] atheqtpie@piefed.blahaj.zone 4 points 4 months ago

Please don’t stay, girl! 😞 🙏 This won’t benefit you ❌

I think he may not love 💗 you like you love 💕 him…