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this certainly brings up some thoughts, given how much of that bulleted stuff we did with a friend yesterday (especially that last one). it feels wrong to talk about it openly on the internet so we won't delve into it here, but your writing really... helps.
its not like anything bad happened, it was really fun and awesome!! there have just been some conflicting thoughts amongst us about, like, what our friend may expect and stuff, cuz we aren't into them romantically. at all.
your notion of progression puts our varying thoughts into so much more perspective, even if it was said for markedly different reasons.
really, thank you <3
on a less brain-intensive note, this abstract sorta art style is really really pretty!!!!! well so is your art in general hehe. but as far as more abstract stuff goes this actually has meaning to us.
hope your breakfast is yummyy!
oh wow umm.. im not sure about exactly what it is that helped, but I'm really happy that it could. setting boundaries can be hard and feel harsh at times. i hope that y'all (or you? not sure, the profile description didnt mention which one to use... so im using that fir now) can find out how to handle this in a way that feels right. i hope that y'all can find a nice way to go about this.
also hmmnaaawwwwww thank y'all very much for the feedback <3 yeaaa imma have breakfast... in like 8 hours or so? oh well, will hopefully sleep soon and stop imagining my own posts happening to be ans getting all giddy about it.... ive got some feelings to get over.
oh y'all is totally ok. still thnx so much, you're the first to have ever asked!! that means a fair bit to us.
going a little more in depth, in short we are sapphic and the person we were snuggling with is a boy. and like we are totally okay with snuggling and stuff but we really really don't want them to get it in their head that we are a romantic opportunity(s).
they are also very very starved for attention & touch so we are unsure they have that self restraint—they are very puppy-like in that regard! we really do care about them and we just don't want them to become really sad if they end up attempting that route and get told no.
you deserve some plushies girl! plus if you are bringing others to your bed, they're bound to enjoy the additional company too =^.^=
ooooh i see whats going on.. yeah... yeah its hard for peeps to get the vibes... especially when not articulated.
i have a singular plushy and you can imagine which one.
i don't snuggle it.. don't wanna make it uncomfy. not yet. don't have anyone to bring into bed or even just to the dinner table yet. have to seeeeeee about that... who knows...