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[–] AlteredEgo@lemmy.ml 27 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (3 children)

Dating apps should be publicly funded like a kind of public utility. And private dating apps heavily regulated and prevented from advertising. Because currently they making profit by keeping you single.

Like water and air, love should not be for profit.

[–] starelfsc2@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 day ago (2 children)

We need 3rd spaces, online dating is just worse in general. People meet at trading card places and card shops because that's just where people hang out, but that doesn't exist anywhere else really besides bars.

People are becoming more isolated and more online, it's way easier to see if you like someone (and you'll be exposed to many people) if they happen to be in your vicinity rather than typing in text on a dating app.

I agree with you on this, 3rd places need to exist

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 2 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

it doesn't mater, folks social skills have atrophied and their anxiety/depression levels have skyrocketed.

i do well on dating apps, but most women i meet have poor social skills and mental health problems, and refuse to address/acknowledge them. I've also seen this same thing in real life and it's even worse with generation z. folks just no longer how to assert themselves or communicate. I ran a 3rd space for a decade almost, and basically quit because a few years after pandemic it became weirder and weirder and unstable and hostile folks kept coming and causing problems and blaming other folks for their rudeness.

you're not going to be able to form healthy romantic relationships if you refuse to take care of your mental health and practice basic social graces.

[–] syaochan@feddit.it 2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)
[–] AlteredEgo@lemmy.ml 1 points 11 hours ago

That story makes me think of arranged marriage. Not a fan, but it did have it's advantages, at least as long as the parents aren't psycho or marry you off for political or monetary advantage or lands. More experience and more of an eye for the materialistic part of marriage and raising a family. Again not promoting this, there will be untold horror stories of ruined lives there, but I also think part of our modern mindset about romance is probably pathological on opposite ways.

In the past you were just expected to love your arranged partner - before the idea of "falling in love" became ubiquitous. Love was seen as a more active thing like a craftsmanship that you have to practice every day to get good at it. The feelings then just "grow" over time (see e.g. this book)

In any case any government interference should be based on well meaning and science based knowledge. Right now the government allows those who own the dating apps influence this essential part of human nature. That is not "non interference", by not acting to protect people from predatory corporations the government causes harm. Obviously there should be socialist government policy for child rearing (healthcare, maternity leave, financial support, free high quality kindergarden and schools). A lot of stress in relationships can no doubt be traced back to financial stress or "materialist" problems.