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Unpopular Opinion
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I was under the impression that for the majority of women, the menopause (and symptoms surrounding it) leads to a very significant decrease in libido
Oddly enough, I couldn't find any reference to libido whatever on the Wikipedia article on menopause. My own understanding comes from anecdotal experiences of my partners. Maybe it's not directly linked to menopause, but women's libidos generally increase with age? At a minimum, I can say that is my observation.
There's a bit on here:
NHS - menopause
Also, the wikipaedia page has a diagram of symptoms, including "less interest in sexual activity" amongst others, then further down in the "Cognitive symptoms and mood shifts" bit, says "cognitive symptoms can include anxiety, poor memory, inability to concentrate (brain fog), depressive mood, irritability and fatigue, mood swings, and less interest in sexual activity."
Having a quick look around the internet (I'm not pretending in some sort of sexpert), there seems to be wildly contrasting views on libido and age - some saying highest is in 20s, some 30s or 40s for all sexes. They all seem to agree that it tends to drop off at 50s in women and 60s in men - but the libido isn't the only factor, compared to "whatever is going on in your life" - someone who is recently separated or someone whose last child has just left home may of course find an increased "enthusiasm" along with their new found freedom.
Obviously, there's differences in individuals, but if you're "banging your way through a harem of horny 50-something year old women" you might be in something of a minority (or you're a mystical sex-magician, and should be sharing your wisdom with the rest of us).
Interesting, thank you. I seem to be enjoying a very atypical experience of a life.
I will say you're not the first, or even second, to deliver the sentiment of that final parenthesis to me 😂 I've been called a sexual Jedi, sex god, a wizard, mind reader, and other flattering names. But yes, even with partners I've enjoyed for literal decades, their libidos have only increased with age, none of them decreased. Whereas I'm now getting testosterone supplements just to keep up, and I'm missing the libido of my youth.
Ah, I wonder if perhaps your vagina virtuoso ways are what's led to an unpopular opinion post - it's probably quite different rules for a labial legend or fanny fascinator. I think my experience, as a non-muff magician, and as far as I'm aware, those of my friends and colleagues (also not cunny conjurers) seems to follow the more typical trends. It's quite understandable though, for a minge maestro that your skill as a beaver bewitcher would lead to libido being sustained or increased for a far longer amount of time, leading to the impression it was connected to age ranges rather than your skill as a quim quiverer.
You are very impressive at naming things, fakeman_pretendname. I believe, like myself, you save your best work for others.
I have to admit I really enjoyed making up that series of silly synonyms and alliterations :)