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submitted 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) by Epp@lemmus.org to c/unpopularopinion@lemmy.world

Strictly of legal age, but old men are better lovers for young women, and young men are better lovers for older women.

Why? Many reasons:

  1. Their libidos are better matched - older men are starting to slow down just as women's libido increase due to menopause.
  2. An older man is more likely to know how to make a woman orgasm, while an older woman is going to be more confident in telling her partner what she wants, which leads to younger women learning how to enjoy sex, and younger men learning how to pleasure a partner.
  3. Attraction - men typically find youth attractive, while women typically find seniority to be attractive. This is a natural result of evolution causing men to seek more viable pairing for offspring, and women to seek more experienced men who have demonstrated fortitude and likely have acquired resources to support children.

In society, the knee jerk reaction is to shun or mock pairings of opposite ends of the age spectrum (I decided to post this after seeing Hugh Hefner and Leonardo DiCaprio being the target of mockery) but their relations are the healthiest and best possible match for both parties.

Exceptions to the rules - not all older men have learned how to help their partners orgasm, and not all older women have their libidos rev up to match that of young men - but in general, older<->younger is the ideal pairing sexually.

Edit: Based on the upvote/downvote ratio this is NOT an unpopular opinion. I had no idea so many people agreed with me! 😯

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[-] Epp@lemmus.org -1 points 2 weeks ago

Oddly enough, I couldn't find any reference to libido whatever on the Wikipedia article on menopause. My own understanding comes from anecdotal experiences of my partners. Maybe it's not directly linked to menopause, but women's libidos generally increase with age? At a minimum, I can say that is my observation.

[-] fakeman_pretendname@feddit.uk 2 points 2 weeks ago

There's a bit on here:

NHS - menopause

  • reduced sex drive (loss of libido)

Also, the wikipaedia page has a diagram of symptoms, including "less interest in sexual activity" amongst others, then further down in the "Cognitive symptoms and mood shifts" bit, says "cognitive symptoms can include anxiety, poor memory, inability to concentrate (brain fog), depressive mood, irritability and fatigue, mood swings, and less interest in sexual activity."

Having a quick look around the internet (I'm not pretending in some sort of sexpert), there seems to be wildly contrasting views on libido and age - some saying highest is in 20s, some 30s or 40s for all sexes. They all seem to agree that it tends to drop off at 50s in women and 60s in men - but the libido isn't the only factor, compared to "whatever is going on in your life" - someone who is recently separated or someone whose last child has just left home may of course find an increased "enthusiasm" along with their new found freedom.

Obviously, there's differences in individuals, but if you're "banging your way through a harem of horny 50-something year old women" you might be in something of a minority (or you're a mystical sex-magician, and should be sharing your wisdom with the rest of us).

[-] Epp@lemmus.org -1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

Interesting, thank you. I seem to be enjoying a very atypical experience of a life.

I will say you're not the first, or even second, to deliver the sentiment of that final parenthesis to me 😂 I've been called a sexual Jedi, sex god, a wizard, mind reader, and other flattering names. But yes, even with partners I've enjoyed for literal decades, their libidos have only increased with age, none of them decreased. Whereas I'm now getting testosterone supplements just to keep up, and I'm missing the libido of my youth.

[-] fakeman_pretendname@feddit.uk 3 points 2 weeks ago

Ah, I wonder if perhaps your vagina virtuoso ways are what's led to an unpopular opinion post - it's probably quite different rules for a labial legend or fanny fascinator. I think my experience, as a non-muff magician, and as far as I'm aware, those of my friends and colleagues (also not cunny conjurers) seems to follow the more typical trends. It's quite understandable though, for a minge maestro that your skill as a beaver bewitcher would lead to libido being sustained or increased for a far longer amount of time, leading to the impression it was connected to age ranges rather than your skill as a quim quiverer.

[-] Epp@lemmus.org 0 points 2 weeks ago

You are very impressive at naming things, fakeman_pretendname. I believe, like myself, you save your best work for others.

[-] fakeman_pretendname@feddit.uk 2 points 2 weeks ago

I have to admit I really enjoyed making up that series of silly synonyms and alliterations :)

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