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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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One thing i can think of is be sure to get their preferred name in addition to pronouns, and that all staff use that name. Perhaps your software has a space for preferred name and pronouns already. I have found that many systems don't have those data entry fields or even on the off chance they do, it is often overlooked if staff aren't trained to pay attention to them.
And honestly, the biggest gripe i had before legally changing my name was telling people that info only for it to be ignored the next time i went there especially when it is right there on the paper they are reading from.
The second biggest gripe is getting deadnamed in emails, phone calls and texts even when a business has a preffered name field.
I am so glad this person is already starting off with a concerned and caring staff member. Good for you.
The national federation forces us to use a system that doesnt allow preferred namens as far as I know, will check that. We don't send a lot of (or any) personalized emails/texts so I think we should be fine regarding that. Thanks!
Is there some legal reason that a sports club needs to keep a deadname on record? Preferably just don't ask them their deadname. Go permissive on the ID stuff - would a letter from a healthcare provider (hormone prescriber) or a reference letter do?