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The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
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LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.

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The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
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LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.

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submitted 1 day ago by AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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So, I have a friend...
He's the same age as me (but a few months older), bi and we've known each other for more than 10 years now, since elementary. He's my only remaining true friend, because the other left me at the beginning of HRT.

So far, he's been amazingly supportive. Like, probably the most supportive person after my bf. We talk a bit on Discord, mostly my messages tho (I think I annoy him a bit tbh 😆)

A couple of days ago...I was feeling good about myself. Great, even. Felt great about my HRT progress and I was feeling, for once in a very long time, kinda happy with myself.

And in that state of happiness and excitement, a mistake was made...

(This is the approximate conversation on Discord we had)

M - me
V - him

M: "Hey, so...I know I haven't shown you any pics, but my HRT progress is going quite well rn. It's really motivating."
M: "So...if you're ready..."
M: (links to timeline post on Trans Joy)
M: "You don't really have to look if you don't want to. It's just...I find it quite informational and tbh, interesting."
V: "Okay, Imma be honest..."
V: "It's a bit strange to see the naked body of someone I know...especially when that person is a girl."
V: "And, tbh..."
V: "If I hadn't known it was you, I wouldn't be able to tell the difference between these and pics of a cis woman..."
M: "Stahp 😭. It's not true, you're just trying to be kind..."
V: "Nah, for real tho. Those are some pics you see on NSFW subreddits."
V: "Not trying to be kind, I'm just telling the truth."
V: "In fact, some time ago, had I not known these were your photos, they would have been something that I used for pleasure..."

Now, this conversation got slightly strange and after his last message (which he deleted), he started apologizing to me for being weird or creepy.
I don't blame him at all for this. I know that he has a strong preference for small chests...I knew that and sent the link anyway. I should have seen it coming. What is wrong with me? I regret making it awkward between us so fucking much.
I was just really excited in the moment and thought "Fuck it". I just wanted him to share my happiness...if only for a moment. It was a dumb thing to do.

Girls...
Please don't do what I did 😭
It was dumb and I should have known. Please, lovely people of Lemmy, please be smarter than me 🩷

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[–] AnxiousMiisha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago

You won't get downvoted for this, because you're completely right. This is totally on me and I'm not trying to argue with that fact at all.

and got upset when he liked them

I did not get upset. If I'm being completely honest, his comments (while unbelievable) were a big confidence boost. I wasn't upset at all (at him, at least).