So, I have a friend...
He's the same age as me (but a few months older), bi and we've known each other for more than 10 years now, since elementary. He's my only remaining true friend, because the other left me at the beginning of HRT.
So far, he's been amazingly supportive. Like, probably the most supportive person after my bf. We talk a bit on Discord, mostly my messages tho (I think I annoy him a bit tbh 😆)
A couple of days ago...I was feeling good about myself. Great, even. Felt great about my HRT progress and I was feeling, for once in a very long time, kinda happy with myself.
And in that state of happiness and excitement, a mistake was made...
(This is the approximate conversation on Discord we had)
M - me
V - him
M: "Hey, so...I know I haven't shown you any pics, but my HRT progress is going quite well rn. It's really motivating."
M: "So...if you're ready..."
M: (links to timeline post on Trans Joy)
M: "You don't really have to look if you don't want to. It's just...I find it quite informational and tbh, interesting."
V: "Okay, Imma be honest..."
V: "It's a bit strange to see the naked body of someone I know...especially when that person is a girl."
V: "And, tbh..."
V: "If I hadn't known it was you, I wouldn't be able to tell the difference between these and pics of a cis woman..."
M: "Stahp 😭. It's not true, you're just trying to be kind..."
V: "Nah, for real tho. Those are some pics you see on NSFW subreddits."
V: "Not trying to be kind, I'm just telling the truth."
V: "In fact, some time ago, had I not known these were your photos, they would have been something that I used for pleasure..."
Now, this conversation got slightly strange and after his last message (which he deleted), he started apologizing to me for being weird or creepy.
I don't blame him at all for this. I know that he has a strong preference for small chests...I knew that and sent the link anyway. I should have seen it coming. What is wrong with me? I regret making it awkward between us so fucking much.
I was just really excited in the moment and thought "Fuck it". I just wanted him to share my happiness...if only for a moment. It was a dumb thing to do.
Girls...
Please don't do what I did 😭
It was dumb and I should have known. Please, lovely people of Lemmy, please be smarter than me 🩷
You didn’t do anything wrong. Boobs are normal. Sex is normal. If you feel like you’ve overstepped your own boundaries in a moment of elation, it can be said. If you want to clarify that this share does not mean in any way that you want your relationship to change into something else, it can be said. This is a mistake that can be fixed. Easier said than done, I know. By what you’re saying your friend seems to have gone further than he wish he had as well. Please please don’t just throw away a friendship over this.
I overstepped both my and his boundaries. He has a bf and I let him know, we talked it out.
He was completely cool with it. He even said that he was glad that I have someone to share it with. He's trans too, and I didn't want to send the timeline to him (he didn't ask for it anyway), because in my mind, it might trigger his dysphoria, which I did NOT want.
Needless to say, I feel really bad and won't ever do something like that again.
Keep my timeline updated, sure...but I'll keep the link to myself, at least 😆
Their relationship is stable, it's very heartwarming to see them together and I'm happy for them both 💜
Thanks for the update, and good job! I’m glad for the way it turned out.