So, I have a friend...
He's the same age as me (but a few months older), bi and we've known each other for more than 10 years now, since elementary. He's my only remaining true friend, because the other left me at the beginning of HRT.
So far, he's been amazingly supportive. Like, probably the most supportive person after my bf. We talk a bit on Discord, mostly my messages tho (I think I annoy him a bit tbh π)
A couple of days ago...I was feeling good about myself. Great, even. Felt great about my HRT progress and I was feeling, for once in a very long time, kinda happy with myself.
And in that state of happiness and excitement, a mistake was made...
(This is the approximate conversation on Discord we had)
M - me
V - him
M: "Hey, so...I know I haven't shown you any pics, but my HRT progress is going quite well rn. It's really motivating."
M: "So...if you're ready..."
M: (links to timeline post on Trans Joy)
M: "You don't really have to look if you don't want to. It's just...I find it quite informational and tbh, interesting."
V: "Okay, Imma be honest..."
V: "It's a bit strange to see the naked body of someone I know...especially when that person is a girl."
V: "And, tbh..."
V: "If I hadn't known it was you, I wouldn't be able to tell the difference between these and pics of a cis woman..."
M: "Stahp π. It's not true, you're just trying to be kind..."
V: "Nah, for real tho. Those are some pics you see on NSFW subreddits."
V: "Not trying to be kind, I'm just telling the truth."
V: "In fact, some time ago, had I not known these were your photos, they would have been something that I used for pleasure..."
Now, this conversation got slightly strange and after his last message (which he deleted), he started apologizing to me for being weird or creepy.
I don't blame him at all for this. I know that he has a strong preference for small chests...I knew that and sent the link anyway. I should have seen it coming. What is wrong with me? I regret making it awkward between us so fucking much.
I was just really excited in the moment and thought "Fuck it". I just wanted him to share my happiness...if only for a moment. It was a dumb thing to do.
Girls...
Please don't do what I did π
It was dumb and I should have known. Please, lovely people of Lemmy, please be smarter than me π©·
There was no need to delete your comment...it was all good advice.
I think I have a pretty good understanding of what our relationship is like. I just overstepped my own (and his) boundaries and I've apologized. We talked it out...
Also, damn girl, but I checked your profile and you're so pretty, omg π
Thanks so much for the kind words π©·
Happy to help, Miisha, and I'm glad to hear you two figured it out! :)
And I should've left it up. I have a tendency to write looong comments and in the moment I thought, hey, all this other advice is great too, and way more succinct lol.
You're super cute too and you've made so much progress in the past few months. Just imagine how things will be in five years!
Noo, I totally get that. I do it too sometimes. Write an essay and be like "But wait...I could have just written 2 sentences"
You're good π©·
Thank you! That's really kind of you. I swear to god, sometimes I see my mom in the mirror...
It's a win tho π
I'll be 25 in 5 years, I don't want to even think about that π
Jeez, I'm old...