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How do you escape paralyzing sadness? (lemmy.world)

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Nothing in the world seems to help. I spent forever trying to find something to watch, but literally nothing felt good. Even when I eventually put something on it felt empty and I just ended up staring at the wall. I tried playing videos games, some of which I really love, and I turned them all off after a few minutes. I've tried other things too. Half the time I don't even eat. Time passes in slow motion, like some kind of purgatory. The worst is I can't even sleep. I have the next few days off and they're going to feel like an eternity. It actually scares me. How do you get through this? I'm desperate.

For what it's worth, I see a therapist weekly and I'm on a few different medications. This particular bout of sadness is caused by an especially painful rejection.

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[-] CallMeButtLove@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

I think I have friends that would listen if I asked them to. But I don't want to be a burden on them. I think I could talk about it ad nauseam. They all have spouses and real people lives. I'm sure they care, but I don't think they have the capacity to "be there" for me like when we were in college and all of us figuring out relationships.

[-] sunsofold@lemmy.zip 1 points 5 hours ago

I would advise you not to ruminate on the incident, even with the friend. Just hang out and chat with them. It's about reminding yourself you are not defined by what one particular person felt about you on one particular day. When you are feeling that urge to hide away and shut down, you need someone to connect with, face to face if possible, on a voice call at barest minimum. Just connect.

[-] Capitanmaroon@lemmy.world 1 points 23 hours ago

If you have friends they will. Even with how you're feeling right now, if one on them sudden had some horrific news and asked to just talk to/at you, you'd show up right? They'll do the same. It's great that you're reaching out to people here, reach out to people in real life as well. It might not be perfect if they have other commitments, but I'm sure they will find time to help. Hell write it all down and DM me if that'll help!

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