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Sibling Transfem Community
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this post was submitted on 21 Sep 2026
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A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
- Please follow the rules of the lemmy.blahaj.zone instance.
- Bigotry of any kind will not be tolerated.
- Gatekeeping will not be tolerated.
- Please be kind and respectful to all.
- Please tag NSFW topics.
- No NSFW image posts.
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- Please do not repost bigoted content here.
This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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We have been told by some that they were uncomfortable with the feel of this place due to the transmedicalist language and such.
Therefore we want to make a place away from that and make it more welcoming to all, away from such things that those who find such things upsetting can thrive and feel more comfortable.
We want to see more participation from those who welcome a space that is heavily moderated and feel more comfortable in a space without even casual bigotry or harmful ideas about themselves or others as we have noticed other trans beings can be overwhelmingly cynical, self deprecating or just generalising and this has harmed us and our friends in the past.
We want it to be open to more types of experiences as well as such intersections as being both trans gender and species etc, types of femininity that don't fit squarely in the trans woman mold, or a certain ways of performing femininity, which we notice is most of this community we are in currently.
We hope this makes sense and thanks for asking!
i think i would be too anxious about messing up to participate. i have all sorts of internalized bad stuff that i'm working to overcome, but it sounds like a nice place. maybe i'll have my shit together enough some day to join.
To be clear, it isn't bad to find things difficult and adressing it and dealing with it in the community we have created would be okay.
It is more there is a certain way many transfems talk about these experiences like self-deprecating and shaming themselves and by extension others.
So like it's okay to say like "I am struggling with feeling bad because of X, Y and Z" reasons in the community we have created, but not like "I am a " and such, there's a certain feel of self- deprecation and shaming that many in transfem communities seem to like, or yes, struggle with, that we want those joining the community to consider and not expose themselves or others to. It's a difficult balance to strike though and we get that.
We aren't here to punish any, more like try and stop a certain way we have seen transfems communicate their struggles that gives 8d6 psychic damage to themselves and others in the process.
We do understand the value of a place where transfems can and we are therefore glad this place exists for those who need to, or want to, but we have found this place often causes us more dysphoria, and we have been told by some of our friends the same, for a few reasons, even on the more positive posts.
We hope you understand better now and we have not caused you any harm.
hope you can <3.