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A question about attraction (pawb.social)
submitted 6 days ago by OmegaMouse@pawb.social to c/asktransgender@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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Hi all, I've been thinking about this a while and to be honest I'm a bit confused about it.

I'm a cis gay(?) guy and basically I want to know, is it ok to be attracted to trans women but not cis women? I'm worried that this separation might be considered invalidating?

Also I don't know what label to use for my own sexuality in this case, but maybe labels aren't always straightforward or all that important

Thank you :3

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[-] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 6 days ago

cishet men and lesbians definitely dont like the same things lol. superficially we both like women, but the vibe of lesbians is way different. a lot of it is hormonal differences, but a lot is also inherent. before i or anyone else knew i was trans i was way more into lesbians and bi women than straight women, like straight women arent even attractive to me most of the time.

[-] Rhaedas@fedia.io 3 points 6 days ago

Well, that basic is what I was going for, obviously the dynamics are different in a relationship. But that helps my point more, there aren't simple categories, people like different things that sometimes overlap with others, and there's nothing wrong with that just because it doesn't fit in a label.

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