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[-] GiveOver@feddit.uk 2 points 17 hours ago

Nothing you said is wrong there, I'm just saying it sucks on our end too. It sucks that women would rather walk past a bear than me, purely because of the way I was born. Sucks that if I mention being upset about it I get told that "I'm the reason she picked the bear". So much vitriol. I can handle it but I know lots of men can't and end up in Andrew Tate's lap. This entire thread is a perfect example. It's not helping.

And I know you're probably going to reply and say that women have it worse because they get raped, and you're right, but it doesn't make me feel any better the next time a woman gives me a wide berth in the park for no other reason than my gender.

[-] Tiresia@slrpnk.net 2 points 6 hours ago

I can handle it but I know lots of men can’t and end up in Andrew Tate’s lap. This entire thread is a perfect example. It’s not helping.

So you're saying it's your "ability to handle it" that is preventing you from falling into Andrew Tate's lap. That you're a bad year of not being able to handle it away from becoming manosphere material yourself.

Why is it that you feel men need to be treated with silk gloves or be unable to help themselves from becoming fascist while women can be treated like shit 23/6 without doing the same? Why is your answer to that to treat men's violence as a given and ask women to please calm down to avoid upsetting him? Why do you back your sadness at being judged for your gender with a promise of violence if that continues?

I understand being upset that people would pick the bear; I myself would pick the man. But, based solely on this conversation, I would pick a bear over you.

Yes, patriarchy sucks for men. Take it up with the patriarchy, not its victims. We're just out here trying to minimize our chances of getting raped.

[-] velma@sh.itjust.works -1 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)

I’m just saying it sucks on our end too

You know what sucks? Being held down and forcibly raped against one's will. And then your rapist not seeing any time in court or jail and allowed to attend the same university where you are trying to get your own education without being fucking traumatized. And yeah this is a predictable response because yeah, I get it sucks when someone is wary of you, but you can't empathize with that at all? That being raped is so much worse than someone giving you space on the sidewalk because they don't know you?

I can handle it but I know lots of men can’t and end up in Andrew Tate’s lap.

There's a lot of this in this thread - blaming women for being scared of being raped for pushing men into being even more misogynistic and hateful towards women.

When are men going to accept some fucking responsibility here?

And I know you’re probably going to reply and say that women have it worse because they get raped, and you’re right, but it doesn’t make me feel any better the next time a woman gives me a wide berth in the park for no other reason than my gender.

If you aren't a rapist, then why are you so offended when women who don't know you give you a wide berth? They aren't doing it to attack you. They're doing it to protect themselves.

[-] Spawn7586@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 11 hours ago

Personally I would not be offended, but I would probably think I smell, start trying to sniff my armpits without being seen, then blush really hard when I think someone saw me and start sweating profusely. After that I would probably keep my arms glued to my side making me sweat more. And then leave to fucking change

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