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I'm never going to be enough for anyone
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this post was submitted on 03 Oct 2026
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I'm not important to anyone, let alone myself
You've got that the wrong way around, start with setting your priorities straight and say: i'm not important to myself, let alone to anyone else. Next step will be: I'm important to myself, but not anyone else. And so on. Baby steps
That's the thing: You are important to yourself; the very reason you write about what you feel means that you, in fact, are important to yourself. The exact same applies to all the people here that bother to reply and the people in offline space you have met and will meet, who care about you. Don’t brush that off so easily.
i must also say that the reason why i read this post and responded to it is because i feel largely the same way. i've met the perfect person (soulmate, if you will) years ago, and one day i called them and asked whether i could come over and she said "that's difficult now, because you see, i got this new boyfriend and he's monogamous so we can't meet anymore" ._,
i don't care about the individual person but i care about community. it can't be that we're treated like this. something has to change. and discussing the single case can help understand and develop the more general strategy.
Wow wtf that's awful