Currently going through a breakup thats leaving me very isolated too. I'm sorry you're going through it sis. It's awful.
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I live in a transphobic society, and i decided to think of it in another way. Its not that i am not worthy for anyone, its that everyone is not worthy of me.
Why should i care for those people who think that i am a weird confused guy in a dress?
It does not solve the loneliness problem, but it gives me a clear reason on what the problem is. It also works as a morale boost. Its me who decides to be friend with, and those are people around me who must be worthy of my friendship.
Hey, I know it feels hopeless right now, but I'm certain there are people out there who'd love you.
I mean, I found someone, and I'm not a nice person. I'm working on it, but she deserves better. Even still, she loves me.
You, on the other hand, are a very nice woman, who deserves a loving partner. I bet you'll find someone who truly cares.
In the meantime, treat yourself nicely, okay? You'll find a partner and a community.
The idea that you cannot find love as a trans person is simply not true. It's not easy, and it's harder for trans people, but it's not impossible. I'm a trans gal happily married to a husband of eight years. I found my soulmate, so can you.
I didn't believe in soulmates until her. Now I don't even believe in love anymore
This your first big breakup?
She was the first person I dated that made me feel safe and didn't make me feel used. She was the first person I dated who's family wasn't outright abusive to me. It's not my first big breakup but it's my first breakup with someone who (until now I suppose) treated me like an actual person
Yep, the more you love a person and having this be a relatively new experience is so fucking rough. Day by day, bit by bit, you'll heal. This isn't to diminish the pain because it will likely be on the leader board for worst experiences and pain in your life, but it should only get better from here.
I get it. I married my partner for similar reasons. But you found love once. You can find it again. No words can make the pain any easier now. But it does get better with time.
There's gonna be more like her, and now you know how to find them.
Being alone is really hard. I would be single for years in between relationships, and friends tend to come and go in my life. Being there for yourself and doing all the self-care things are important, but that never fully offsets the feeling of coming home to an empty apartment every night.
I remember reading your post from last week and thinking you deserved better. I think you're going to find people who value you and don't throw you away this time. You might be alone for a while longer, but good things will happen and it'll be wonderful when it does. You're allowed to be sad and angry about everything that's happened to you, but I hope the pain doesn't make you give up on everything you want out of your life. I hope one day this will be the memory of a trial you overcame.
Not sure if this helps but try to be self sufficient and not depend on other people, you're the most important person to yourself
I'm not important to anyone, let alone myself
That's the thing: You are important to yourself; the very reason you write about what you feel means that you, in fact, are important to yourself. The exact same applies to all the people here that bother to reply and the people in offline space you have met and will meet, who care about you. Don’t brush that off so easily.
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